Hi, I'm Clint and I'm new to this forum.

I'm originally from Belgium and lived there for 26 years, relationships and the boyfriend and girlfriend thing are diffirent back home compared to the US. There is some game but once you get the girl, it's easier to keep her.
Most of my relationships or flings came to me as a fools-mate, never had to put much work in it. I'm not really a smooth talker or anything.
I moved to the States because of my wife, we fell in love in Afghanistan and thing moved quickly. I'm here for @ years now and me and my wife split up because of long distance...

Anyways after the break up I went to the online dating shit and went partying downtown, again got lucky without to much effort.
I met this one chick online, yes I know there is plenty more fish in the sea.
So we hit it off strong and saw eachother like 4 days a week, after the week 6 or whatever. I went to her place to talk some stuff out and she got offended or irritated because I came without permission. before all this she still talked about her ex etc (red flag), anyways I became to nice and beta so I guess I started to pushed over.
The next week I only saw her one day and she all of a sudden become unavailable in the weekend to hang out with friends.
I made a huge mistake contacting her roommate asking what she was doing, she gave me hell about that.
After that she still kept texting me in the mornings and saying she missed me and all that bla bla bla but never wanting to hang out anymore.
After 2 weeks of trying and bullshitting I finally got enough of it and hard words were exchanged via text, so it ended badly.
Still I like her even when she was being disrespectful towards me.
I guess I became boring and pushed her away, now reading all this stuff and 'the game'
Her birthday is coming up and I wonder if I should text her a neurtal message.

I personally don't feel like you're going to listen to any of the advice you're given here if you'e showing up to a girls house without permission; and if you're contacting her roommates to discover their whereabouts. Thats just a tad bit insane if you ask me, and if you're pulling actions like that, I can't imagine you having the self control to do what the guys who give you advice here are going to tell you to do.

First things first though man, this is not a unique thread despite your actions and hers. The emotions that are present are the same as the other few thousand post in this section. You got desperate, you acted irrationally, her attraction went away, she left you, and now you're wondering if you should contact her or call it quits. Same shit, same toilet. Thousands of guys on this very forum has already asked this question before you.

But just to reiterate..

She wants her space. Know woman wants a man that can't live without her. A woman doesn't like to be NEEDED, she likes to NEED. She wants someone that she can lean on and not someone that leaning on her for emotional stability. Every girl in her right mind will leave such a guy because he is becoming a burden. He has become dead weight that she is forced to carry. Without her he isn't happy. Thats not a man. Thats a child. Someone making his feelings the responsibility of another. If she wanted a boy she would of dated one.

Get on with your life man. You fell in before (marriage) and you'll fall in love again. But the only way to make your relationship work is to develop the ability to "let go" - you have to learn to detatch in the moments that it FEELS difficult. Without that, no woman is going to remain in your life for long.

You learn to walk away by pushing through your feelings and doing it now. Moving on. You don't wait until you have no other choice. You move on with dignity, while you still have a choice and it is that, that will build your emotional fortitude for the future. Making your more capable of handling an LTR with a woman you deeply care about.

Let her go. Don't text her anymore. You'll find someone else. We always do.

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It's a funny thing though, before my marriage I had no issues letting somebody go. I could be by myself without issues. I would usually play games and be I control in a relationship.
I let my wife go cause I didn't want to be long distance anymore, and after my marriage she was the first girl I've been with longer than a month.
As you put it, you are right maybe I was insane and thought irrational, I thought I just cared but it came out different.
I went beta and got needy, that being said after I told her I would give her time and space she came back to me texting and wanting to meet up, but she started arguing again and I felt for the mindgames.
I haven't texted her or whatever after the bad word exchange
It is a lost cause, to bad I liked her

Why on earth would you do something like this?

'Attachment' isn't logical.