My gf of 7 months went to Jamaica for spring break with her med school class. There's about 40 or so who went on the trip, including couples within the class. She had this trip booked before we were officially a couple. I have met them before, get along with them, and they seem to genuinely like me as an outsider, so no problems there

While she was away, she told me that she got drunk one night and went skinny dipping with her classmates. No big deal, I was kinda taken aback by it but I figured it was with a group and that if anything happened, I would have known about it. I kinda figured she would have been pissed if I did it, but whatever, she told me, she was upfront, honest, and I never needed to probe, so all is good.

This is where things get dicey. She returns from her trip and tells me all about it. In the middle of the excitement she was telling me "I can't wait to fuck you, it's been 5 days...hahha, I mean a week since we had sex". I laughed and told her jokingly but very subtly serious "I fucking hope so!" lol. We continue driving and I didn't think much of it at the time. We shared a laugh about the skinny dipping because it was a mutual friend who started it and she says after "I only had my bottoms off, I covered my boobs, etc."...weird how she added it in after the fact. Then when she keeps telling me about her trip, the girls were all sharing sex stories while even asking her how good I am in bed and what positions I get her off in. "She tells me that she told them that she had a three...that she had sex with another girl."

Two slip ups in what she said has got me extremely nervous. I have a feeling there's more to what she was telling me. I don't think having a threesome is a huge deal, especially if its with two girls. We disclosed our sexual history, numbers, things we did, and the only thing she mentioned was that she had sex with another girl. Right now I am completely on edge and I don't know what to do or how to go about this. I'm really hoping nothing happaened, and being cheated on in my last relationship isnt helping, although I had no reason not to trust her before this went down. Thoughts on how to go about it? Or am I just being insane?

So this is the chick who is leaving the country soon and who made you unfollow girls and lied about guys she was seeing? Just want to be clear if it's the same chick and what happened with all that

I'm confused. Has she had a threesome before you two were dating? You think she had a threesome on the trip? I don't read anything into the "it's been 5 days" slip-up. But I think she's probably had a threesome before she dated you. You don't say "had a threesome" if you haven't had one. That's an illogical slip. But I doubt she cheated on you otherwise you wouldn't hear any details you're hearing and the energy would be totally awkward.

Do you want a gf who gets trashed and goes skinny dipping with other dudes when she has a boyfriend? .

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Also, fuck this paragraph man. You need to respect yourself more than this. Extremely nervous? Completely on edge? No. You are either pissed off or playfully amused. You are a man. You control the ship. If she fucks around she's thrown overboard and it's on to the next port of call. You are not afraid of being cheated on because there are literally billions of women, and you got her, so you can get someone equal to her or better. Until you have this kind of abundance mentality you're going to be tormented in your dealings with women.

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I commented on a thread like that but I wasn't the OP in that one...

Oh my bad...was on my phone so it looked like you wrote that. But isnt she leaving soon for her hometown?

My guess is:

1. She went skinny dipping as she said
2. She's most likely had a 3 some.

Now, to the 3 some, could be she was with 2 guys or 2 girls. Could be an ex made her or she did it with an ex and doesnt want to tell you due to shame, or she just doesnt want to do it with you, because she's not attracted alot to you, or she does really love you and doesnt want to bring a 3some idea up. There are alot of reasons why she couldve lied, and some of them could be good reasons for you, some could be bad. Just giving ideas.

As to the sk dipping...it's up to you if that's cool for you and how you handle it. Some dudes are fine with their girl doing stuff like that and hey whatever is ok for you is fine. As to the 5 days vs a week thing, could just be a genuine wording thing. Is there anything else making you suspicious?

This chick knows her shit on infidelity and desire in a relationship.

http://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_t ... anguage=en

https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_ ... ever_loved

I think you're seeing what you're looking for. What I mean by that is that when you expect something to happen, you start seeing signs even if they aren't really there.

My guess is that her trip to Jamaica had you a little bit hyperventilated to being with.

You're fine OP, nothing to worry about in my opinion.

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