Greetings dear healthy relationship-ers!
First of all, I'd like to make my point that I do not really care about orgasms that much, nor am I desperated or trying to prove myself something stupid. I am in a wonderdul relationship, the one I'd like to carry on as far and as long as possible and since we are amazingly happy, we would like everything to be as perfect as possible.

The thing is, she can not have an orgasm during intercourse. Nothing we can't handle, but we began to worder why, even my beloved thinks that if it's so pleasant and we love each other, why can't this happen? Something wrong with her or me? We're thinking about visiting some sexuologist in a nearest future, but as far as I know this community and it's members, I think it may be a good idea to ask here as well.

She does not have too sexual past, due to failed first time she was afraid to be with anyone for a few years, as far as she tells anyway, but I do trust her. Only orgasms she had occured during shower masturbations. For now she stopped doing so, belieaving it may help the cause. It does not matter whether we're making love for 5 or 30 minutes, slower, faster, different positions. She enjoys it, but as she states it, the feeling does not escalate. Some positions are pleasant, some are much more pleasant, but the feeling remains at constant. I know that foreplay matters, and the fact that we love each other, but I think that it should be quite a natural thing, non-requiring 20min foreplay and 40min sex in 7 different positions.

In fact, I belieave she suffers more than I because of that, and that's why I'll gladly receive any advices. She also suffers sexomnia, don't know if that matters but she masturbates quite often during sleep but as far as I know it does not end with an orgasm.

P.s. I do love her and I'm a normal healthy man, in case of someone thinking that I'm an impotent or sexual speedy gonzales.

Love each day guys, thanks for any advises!

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Look at you two being so disgustingly in love. So cute. I actually mean that in a good way.

You know, not all women are physically capable of reaching orgasm through intercourse alone. Do you give her oral? are you good at it?

My suggestion is to read "She comes first". It's actually a really good book. Apply that knowledge. Try it out. I'm certain it will solve your problem.

Report back once you did. Hope you two stay as happy in the future.

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She sounds like she may been dissociating during sex. The term dissociation means: the experience of feeling separate from your body. It she had a bad experience it might had left her some triggers which cause her to feel her body less so she can't reach orgasm.
Also the views she had about sex can influence the way she relaxes during sex.
It's a good idea you want to speak to a specialist.
I don't think you'll be able to achieve making her reaching an orgasm. It's not about your abilities or your techniques. It is an emotional block she has. I am saying this because it is extending to her masturbation.
You could try to stop focusing on her reaching an orgasm. It will help her relax a little bit more and enjoy what you are doing. Women we feel lots of pleasure even if we don't reach orgasm. So don't worry about it. She is alright. Just follow your plan to visit a specialist and see what he/she says about it.

The odds that a woman is biologically anorgasmic is less than 2% depending on which study you are looking at.

The odds that a woman is psychologically anorgasmic is even lower. Women have twice more nerve endings in their clitorises than men have for their entire penis for a reason.

The odds that male lovers suck in bed is 80%; again, depending on which scientific journal you're looking at.

Most men don't want to hear the diagnosis that they suck in bed. If you're doing 7 different positions in less than an hour, then you're doing it all wrong.

Try banging her in just one position for 30 minutes; escalating your speed and rhythm every 7 minutes culminating with the fastest bang that you can muster for the last 2 to 3 minutes.

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1. Many women find it difficult to orgasm from regular intercourse. It totally depends on the woman. I've been with women who orgasm within 5-10 minutes every time, and some who would go for half an hour and only orgasmed once in a while. It really does depend on the person.

2. If she masturbates regularly then that will reduce her sensitivity, and will be more difficult to orgasm from regular sex, just like guys.

3. She masturbates in her sleep? Sounds like she needs to get that checked out. Everything else sounds pretty normal to me.

WHat?? LOL

A vagina is not like a dick!
You don't lose sensitivity if you play with it. The more you play with it the more horny you get.
Also an orgasm doesn't make you feel sexually fulfilled. It's not like men that once you ejaculate you feel a relief and want some time to cool down.
An orgasm can just set the mood for a series of more orgasms.

I think you misunderstand what I mean. I'm not talking about one at a time - I'm talking about over a long period of time, e.g. days/weeks on a regular basis.


Also, this is in general - and doesn't apply for everyone. I've got a friend who has masturbated 1-2 times in a day and still has sex just fine. For me, that definitely ain't happening, and SOMETIMES I'll need a couple days to regain that potency.