| We're both seniors in high school. I share a few mutual friends with this girl, so starting September I've seen her outside of school once every week or two. She's shown a lot interest, so the past four weekends we've hung out alone. The first three weekends we watched two movies at her house and went ice skating once. Each date ended up with us hooking up, going a little further every time (furthest we got was hooking up with our shirts off). She was going on vacation with her family from last Friday (2/13) to this Tuesday (2/17), so I set up another date with her for Thursday. We went got dinner, then picked up Starbucks and drank it in the back seat of my car. So we ended up hooking up again, and she started with the "what is this"/"what are we" type of questions. We decided to be boyfriend/girlfriend. We continued hooking up after this talk and she gave me a hand job in the car. End of the night before I dropped her home she asked me agreeing to be in a relationship was sincere and not just for sex. I said it was sincere, which was true as I do like this girl. She's a good/respectable girl type (I doubt she's kissed more than 2 guys, including me, and that was definitely the first sexual act she's done) so I was expecting her to ask something like that.
One of the things she mentioned on Thursday was how we only really talk on the weekends. Because of our class schedules, I don't see her much in school besides the occasional walk by in the hallway (and even then I normally don't notice her or say anything to her). I mentioned that we text during the week sometimes, she responded by saying that they're normally really short conversation. This is true, as normally it's just a few texts back and forth on one day for me to set up the date and that's it (with maybe a couple long conversations at some point). A couple years ago I used to be the guy to have long non-stop text conversations with girls, but now I always have stuff to do so it doesn't really make sense to text like that anymore. Somehow the topic ended up changing, and we didn't talk about how often we talk rest of the night.
My question is, how often should be talking to her? I like her, but I'm just not the type to give her attention 24/7. I don't want to text her or talk to her too much and come across as needy, but I also don't want her to think I'm just using her for sex. She texted me the day after our last date (Friday), and she continued the conversation in the morning after she fell asleep. We continued Saturday, but I ended up falling asleep first this time and I didn't respond in the morning. I'd probably end up texting her on Wednesday to set up another date for this weekend, and maybe see her in school on Thursday or Friday. The only contact I normally have with her is the short convo to set up the date, and the date itself. Should I increase the amount of contact we have now that we're in a relationship, or just continue what I'm doing?
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