op's post is exactly why i never trust any woman who has very close male friends. you're never going to befriend someone unless you're attracted to him or her. and eventually if you hang out enough together, you'll go out and get drunk together, lose all inhibition or sense of responsibility, and fuck. it just happens.

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It's just good to get it all out in the open and end up on the same page. Confronting the situation gets everything clear. It's awkward just like cold approach is awkward, and only lasts a second. Find out what you both want from each other, and where you want to go from here. It's better than playing mind games. Nothing good comes from that.

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Alright everyone. So i guess it was a week or so since i posted, here is an update on what happened.

I didnt text her since her last one. Been out meeting other girls. One is a swimwear model, its been a great week. And realising that would not be a gd relationship to go into.
So she texts me the normal, i miss you i love you stuff. This is purely platonic i know she is like this with everyone.
Asks why i havent seen her for a week. I say ok lets hang tomorrow. She is all over it.
So we go to a party some guy has invited her to. He is clearly under the impression that he is going to get with her and does not like me being there. He is not a threat, hes barely 5ft and would have no chance with anyone.
We start drinking. She drops in about a guy shes been texting for a few weeks an shows me a pic. I talk to her about girls im seeing and then i realise this is not anything more than a drunken fuck. Altho i still wonder as she did declare her undying love just weeks ago.

We end up getting drunk, half making out but then she disappears n makes up some weird story, she's texting me all night saying she is sorry, loves me blah blah blah. She doesnt seem to like people not liking her. She then invites me round at 2am
I tell her to text me the address but nothing so i go sleep. 7am the next day she sends me a screenshot saying she typed the address but it didnt go through. Like i said, she likes to be liked so would never come out and say, i didnt want to. So i'm pretty sure she is just blowing hot n cold for the sake of it. Or maybe its true, but i doubt it!

Here is where i am though. She is one of my best friends and i can deal with it not being anything else, but i really would like to bang her again. We are going to an event tomorrow.
My strategy now is just to not try anything, ignore her, hit on other girls and then if i am going to make a move do it right at the end of the night. But DEFINITELY not going to have a proper conversation with her as it just doesnt seem to feel right.
But i would like to have a fwb situation. She is a great girl to hang with, sex is amazing but def not gf material. And she only seems to want me when she cant have me. So what should i do to keep the attraction there and fuck her again?

Any ideas? Thanks!

With this particular girl, have her overtly see you chatting with and getting in close with other women. Be the suave motherfucker you are and spike her interest. Do not be too available at all.

First off, let me apologise. I messed up my old login so have had to make my username a .20! I'm the OP though!

After your last advice, which was spot on btw. I stepped away for two weeks. She blew up my phone still but i resisted. So in those two weeks a new guy started her work who she used to have feelings for a yr ago when he had a gf. So she calls me to hang out, he's there. She kisses him, then comes back to me saying she doesn't like him. He goes, i end up kissing her again. She texts me the usual stuff about her wanting to marry me etc. I say nothing.
Week goes past, i ignore her. We end up going to a party, what i thought was a party. Its just 5 people including her n the guy but they aren't really a couple he's just hanging out there sniffing around.

Im gutted but i make the guy look totally lame by charming every girl in there, including her and he's sitting in the corner pretty much crying while im dancing with the girls, picking them up. I then leave with her, my friend.
We go out, we get wasted we briefly kiss but she resists.

So i'm done. No more. Then i'm out last night and i get a text at 2am "I love you." then she walks in to the place i'm at. We chat, flirt, heavily flirt with touching, mention the sex we had. There is a huge sexual tension there.
We are best friends who have fucked and hung out most nights since flirting n kissing. She says she's here with him. Starts moaning about him. Says she isn't into him but likes the attention.

He walks in, i say hello. She asks me if i can take her out to dinner in front of him. Says she wants to spend new years with me being all firty. He looks uncomfortable. I am much more of a catch than he is. He's not a bad guy but i'm a big deal where i am. She knows i can have other women.
I leave without telling her. I get an i love you text. Then at 5am i get some weird text that makes no sense.
"I wish you were alive because i love you. You know what i mean"
Clearly she's drunk but i have no idea what she means. I didn't respond. Every time she nearly says something but none of us want to. The only time she did was when i had a gf and i ignored it.

Im a bit of loggerheads here. I've done everything right. Not initiated any chase. Been hard to pin down. She told me she loved me when i had a gf. This is pretty what i did to her, except i was into my gf at the time.
We have slept together so it isnt like a bff thing. But the pattern is
Her texting me - US going out n drinking - Me making a move to fuck - her backing off - she gets home n sends me texts saying she loves me.
I have a girl coming to town in a few days who is a swimwear model. Im making sure i'm out meeting other women. I just have a connection with her i haven't really had before. Deeper than sex. All my friends say they can tell she is in love with me by the way she talks about me and acts around me.

She wants to hang New Years. I have 4 girls in town. Im at the cross roads now of keeping the game going. I know if i start seeing this swimwear girl she will start chasing again. Or just save everyones time and asking her what is up. But like someone said earlier. Once you verbalise it, it may just vanish. The tension builds the emotion.
To me, patience is always the best option. I just worry we are going to go through this phase in our lives and never talk about it, and it's a missed opportunity.
Cheers

Keep moving on with the other women and try to forget this one. Engage with her if she literally throws herself at you, if then. She is a an attention-seeker. If it were me I would completely stop playing her merry go round games. You got this boss.

Yea man. Thats what i have been doing. It dawned on me the other night what a waste of time it was.
I do regret us not actually having a conversation about it and i have been pretty closed up. I can kind of tell that she is in love with me, but i dont think either of us are going to do anything about it.
Going over my behaviour. I have literally taken her out every night, got her wasted and then gone to fuck her. So i probably should have spent some time with her normally building up some emotional connection instead of just trying to do that.
Like u said though, if a girls wants you, u know. I knew before. When i had a gf she threw herself at me.

Maybe she got bored n moved on to the next guy. Who knows. His problem now!

I dont think i want to have the conversation though, it just ruins the whole thing. Yup, got 6 girls getting to town tomorrow.

If you desire a LTR with her, "the conversation" to clear things up that you are talking about has worked for me in the past to get in to a LTR. It's not really a "game move" but LTRs are not PUA. But as you said it could screw things up as well. But, no risk no reward.