I've been dealing with this one girl for 7 months. She thinks of it as committed relationship from the very start, even though I reinforced my opinion that relationships are bullshit and I don't plan to define anything too soon. This happened after my last breakup with ex, so my approach became quite colder and aloof, which means better game-wise. From being settled down(typical beta) with my ex, I've gone to complete opposite. So this made it intense for a current girl, because she sensed the reason for my need to go out very often and game something. A stress from a job got to me, and I frequently needed few days off from her. That, in combination with lots of sex, probably hooked her up bad, and I figured she's been overtly needy all this time. I didn't intend to mess with her, so I had to balance it out a bit.

Ok, so whats the problem? The moment I start to think about everything, the idea catches up to me, that its not my looks, character or value that attracts occasional female into my life. Its me being their last option.

And so, I've had a friendly relation with the current girl long before all these started(couple of years ago). I attempted to game her at that time(out of pure lust), but to no success - I felt friendzoned, while she was chasing a mutual friend of ours, and he was rejecting her. It was a drama. She was chasing him the same way that she now chases me. It didn't work for her so she ended in LTR with someone else. After she ended that, and I broke up with my ex, it somehow led us to where we're at.

Now in the present she doesn't like much when I'm hanging out with this mutual friend, because of idea that I'd rather hang out with him than put her as a priority, and we always give impression we're out to sarge, etc. She always talks in a mocking, sardonic tone about him nowadays. Perhaps this is a history related resent, perhaps she's just annoyed by him because of said priorities, I don't know. Its a typical girlish "where was I thinking" modus operandi.

The moral of the story - I feel any woman that comes to me eventually, is when everything else fails. I had to deal with accusations and jealous scenes she made many times, including my exes, but I should be ok with the fact that someone from our social circle could've fucked her in the past? And because it didn't work out, I am now the "last station". It makes me want to remind her of the fact during the time when she gives me shit, or accuses me of something.

It demotivates me, and kills my inner game to know that I cannot choose. How can I even approach women along with the fact that they'll want something from me once in a blue moon after they try every other option.

Well, now that your self-esteem is in the toilet.....

Sound like you want out, but are to chicken shit to be alone for a few.

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+1

It would seem that ts found that he is usually a fallback guy for a woman. Well, do you think it gets any better with time? As I approach my late twenties, women are a lot more eager, quick to put themselves out as available but, I feel conflicted cause I usually know some sort of manipulation is involved. A wedding for instance is full of woman lowering their guard in search of love. What is a turn off is that, if their friends were not married, engaged or having children, they likely would not be as available nor eager. Its tricky.