all true but now he's in a much more dire situation with his kid involved. at this point i'm not sure if you can go gaming and fucking with a woman's head. i sure as hellhound wouldn't. i'd bite my tongue for 9 months. shitty situation man.

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I don't think that's his kid. Given the details of this relationship case, it's most likely from another man. Give it 9 months and a paternity test and you'll figure out why the OP got dumped.

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agreed. you don't dump the father of your kid for the reasons she gave.

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you handled the break up perfectly the only way you can get a woman back once you've been dumped is to walk away and be consistently strong, and move on. There's nothing you can say no combination of words you can use to make her realize oh shucks I really love him I was stupid to dump him. All you can do is walk away and move on with your life. However in your situation I would strongly suggest you look into whether you're the father of that child like the other poster's said this sounds weird to me.

For future reference when a girl gets distant you take it in stride like a true alpha male that is not dependant on the feelings of others for his own happiness and 1 of 2 things will happen she'll come back or you'll move on either way its a win win situation. There's 2 ways to do this girl gets distant go NC right off the bat or call her suggest you want to see her spend time with her. If she gives you a distant response say ok well text me or give me a call when you're free, and leave it at that your only job from there is inaction, and it is the ONLY thing that will get her back. I'm speaking from personal experience. If you send a text asking what's wrong or why she's acting distant which isn't outrageous she'll only see it as needy, and right there you've hurt your chances of getting her back. I've been there I was dating a girl she told me about her family/work/school problems so I texted her to see how she was doing she didn't return it for a week, so I called her no answer so I left a vm saying I hope things are working out and to give me call. Well next contact I had with her was a break up text. Lesson learned.

Fast forward to now I've been dating a girl made the mistake of over pursuing she got distant I walked away and realized inaction is the only thing that will fix my situation so that's what I did I saw her this weekend, and she was extremely warm and receptive introducing me to family and friends. I strongly suggest you check out this website www.understandingrelationships.com.

Anyway I know its a long winded post, but that's my story hope it helps good luck!

thanks for the advice I went no contacted and got a phone call saying she wants to meet up i said i couldnt really talk at the min by will sort out a time when am free she also asked if I would try again with her, I said SPAM i dont think its a good idea but would sort out a time when we could meet.

Also I know 100% the kid is mine as she literately never left my house prior to being pregnant.

so how do i act when we meet?

1st and foremost make sure you're in a good place mentally before you see her do not schedule a date of any sort until you're sure you're in a good mental head space.

When you're mentally good call her up make definite plans for 2 or 3 days into the future, and get off the phone from this moment on your phone is to be used ONLY for setting up dates aka fun filled romantic opportunities for sex to happen. with this girl NOTHING else!! Clearly due to you handling this like a man she's having second thoughts about ending it because you acted the way a man who percieves himself as a catch would and walked away its the only way to get a girl back. Now the purpose of setting it up 2 or 3 days into the future that gives her even more time to wonder about you what you're doing etc, and create sexual tension. If she contacts you during those days say hey great to hear from you just in the middle of something, but I'm looking forward to seeing you tomorrow night, and get off the phone. If she calls or texts you after 8pm DO NOT answer it return it the next day, and say hey sorry I missed your call was just out with a friend she'll automatically assume its another woman, and create even more tension with her. As far as what to do how to act you set up plans for her to come to your place and make dinner together you don't take her out if she suggests you meet her out say you know I'm not feeling it I'm tired , and just feel like staying in and withdraw the offer she'll most likely cave and come to your place if not say well call me when you're free this week, and leave it at that when she does contact you again get her to come to your place. Why because she dumped you. She's gonna have to put that effort into seeing you if she wants to see you. If she gives you a wishy washy answer again withdraw the offer, and cut off all contact once you're rejected twice you walk away she'll hit you up again when she does make definite plans again when she feels your strength she'll have no choice, but to submit to you. Women want a man they can submit to, and that acts like a dominant male. I've found lately the roles have been severely reversed and men are the ones trying to submit to women act like a dominat strong alpha male get the girl simple. As far as how to act when you're together forget about the past its a new clean slate your only job as a man is to create a fun opportunity for sex to happen no talk of relationships labels any of that bullshit unless she brings it up, and then don't settle for anything less then what you want. You're main objective is to create a fun filled romantic opportunity for sex to happen~ Corey Wayne. After you have a good time together whether or not you sleep with her don't call or text her wait for her to hit you up she will, and once she does rinse and repeat. What you'll notice is that she'll start hitting you up via text or call just to say hi or talk, and as you continue this setting up one date per week she's gonna get to the point where she doesn't want to wait a week to see you, and be with you her chasing and pursuing is going to increase over the course of you doing things right.

Did you cuff her in the basement? Did you board up all windows and doors in your house so no other men went in while you worked, went to school, or got groceries?

When I got a married woman pregnant, she dumped her husband for me. It all goes back to the question, why would she dump you? Before you pay any child support, make 100% sure to get a paternity test.

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hey dude I'm gonna break down for you what my gut is telling me this isn't from a game perspective, but from an outsider looking in perspective. I think you're looking at the who's the daddy situation through rose colored glasses, and don't want to accept the fact that it may not be yours (that's just an assumption don't take it the wrong way) but this is how I see it she cheated on you, and got pregnant and is fairly certain the baby is not yours she goes into panic mode looking for even the slightest thing you did wrong so she can justify dumping you which looks like she did. However you handled it like a man that is making her think twice about dumping you normally I would say that is what's happening, and it could be part of what's happeneing, but I really think you're a back up plan I hate to say it, but my honest theory is the guy who she thinks is the father is wishy washy so she's got you on hold as a back up.

I'm gonna call it right now when this baby is born the truth will come out its gonna play out in one of these ways.

1) This was all horemones and irrational thinking on her part the baby is the op's and they live happily ever after (if that's what you want I hope that's how it plays out for you bro)

2). The baby is someone eleses and she dumps you and justifies dumping you in her own head plays the story over and over in her head until she believes it herself. In which case you're better off without her.

3) The baby is not yours she gets dumped by the father she comes crawling back to you begging for a second chance saying she's sorry, and all that and that would prove my theory of you being the back up plan if all else fails.

The reason I think this is how it is is because I was dating a girl she was seeing someone else on the side and decided she wanted him over me, and was looking for a reason to justify dumping me in her own head so she came up with this story that I called her a bitch and talked badly about her parents and played it over and over in her head until she believed it for the gospel truth. That way she didn't feel bad dumping me for the other guy. Even though it was bullshit it was all a ploy in her own head so she didn't feel guilty. That's what I think is going on here why else would she dump the father of her child over something so minor? If that were the case you treated her badly and she wanted rid of you for it believe me she would already be after every penny she could get from you.

OP unless you literally did those things get a paternity test. but for now you should definitely act as though that's your kid and don't take any unnecessary risks that would make her overly stressed or emotional. just how i would play it.

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Agreed.

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thanks for all the advice guys your support and comments has helped me a lot and when i say she literately never left my house i mean literately if i ever went out she would ask me to lock the door and she would go into my bed room and watch tv, I have motion cameras to the front and rear of my house and a key hole camera in the door that logs events and sends the pictures to my phone when am out (home automation is a hobby of mine).

we are sort of back together ( i haven't put a label on it) and i have used the advice that i have got from here and even got her to make me breakfast in bed I still treat her like a princess but also make sure she knows things are on my terms. she is now the one who is chasing me in the relationship and i do have to admit it does feel good think am going to put it down to emotions but am keeping this site book marked and will be reading lots more

I honestly don't think we would be back together if it wasn't for this site

Thank You