So me and this 10 have been going out steady for about 3 months. For the past 3 years most of my relations with women have either been one night stands or 3 weeks of steady sex and I'm gone. So after meeting this girl I realize she's really a good girl(I kno women lol) , and we connect really fast. At first I'm all over this like I am with every chick I get and every thing is going great. Sex is great, she's constantly blowing up my phone with I miss u, can't wait for more, can't believe I did that I've never done that before blah blah blah. So as two months hit she asks me to meet the folks, I do and I bring her around mine.

So this is where I fuck up....I get drunk one night (I don't drink) and we meet up. Idk wtf was going on with me but I express my feelings to her (which I never do,I know the game) about wanting a relationship (I do but I never ever express this with a girl) with her but I also make it clear I'm not asking, just want to see where she stands... Anyways she says she does have feelings for me and would be in a relationship but it's too early, she just got out of a 1 year relationship earlier I'm the year and she knows how I am, and she just wants to be single for a while blah blah....so we come to an agreement to keep it exclusive but not official(wtf is that lol)...I'm not into this emotional shit so a few days later I tell her I can't be in an exclusive relationship if we not together. We agree to see other folks but she expresses she doesn't like it.

Anyways, nothing about us has changed with the fact that she still sends me a gm text and a call every night (we talk to one of us falls asleep) since we started talking. What's getting me is she's been a lil distant, answering texts extra late, no more I miss u texts, no more random day calls when we are together she doesn't reach for my hand like she always does etc.... Now I will admit after the initial talk I've been more expressive with her than I usually am but not overly afc. She's has the upper hand right now and I can feel it and I don't like this shit one bit bro. It's been a long time since I been emotionally involved with anyone, especially to just one chick... But the biggest problem is I do want her and at this point in my life I don't have time to entertain numerous girls n I'm just looking for a bit of stability for once. So I don't know how to approach this.

My question is how do I regain the upper hand, how do I get her to chase me again, did I fuck this up all together and how do I get her to want me like I want her? Ps...please don't tell me I fucked up, I know. Lol

Your still in pick-up mode when you've clearly gotten the girl. Now to keep her you're perpetually trying to impress her with your coolness. And I'm sure your doing a great job. She feels like you saw something in her that no one else could, that's when she will felt differently about you than every other guy in the world.

Your good with women, it comes natural.

Keeping them is still (my opinion) still GAME. But the course has changed.

Instead of continually having to impress her, you have to jump off that hamster wheel and flip the script.

Always. No matter how cool you appear to her, the overall tone of the relationship is that she is the decider. It is still her deciding whether you are good enough for her.

She NEEDS to qualify herself to YOU. Qualification is based on the fact that she has already invested something in you, no matter how small.

You are baiting her to display more of herself by building on what she has already displayed.

Find out her passions, and have her qualify them to you.

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There are some people who don't think or analyze a situation until forced to do so. By expressing your feelings and asking her that question, you forced her to actually think about why she is even with you. And then she realized - she "knows how you are", which means that now she is fully aware that a relationship with you is a bad deal.

So the only way to reverse this problem is to make her see that being with you is a good thing, not a bad thing. Short of some drastic life-transformation, I really don't know how a playboy can make himself look like a great person to have a LTR with and possibly marry. The girl is backing away, now that you've made her see you for what you are. If she's a good girl, she's probably looking for a good guy. Although why girls sleep with bad guys while hunting for a good one, is beyond me.