Usually if she dumped you and you've been AFC during the relationship, going no contact is your only option. Noobs tend to get the no-contact part right, but then screw up when the girl finally gets in touch.

Understand the dynamics here. The girl contacts you only to double check you are still obsessed with her. So those texts feigning concern:

eg. "hey not heard from u for a while, are u ok??? miss u xx" usually actually translates to:

"hey I've started banging a new guy and I just wanted to make sure you're still feeling shit over our breakup because it makes me feel important when a guy is upset over me. And also wanted to make sure you're not with some new bitch, because if you are, I'll be mad jealous and she better not be hotter than me. I might let you fuck me a few times if you've lost interest in me."

Notice how this girl is only interested in you when there is negativity and drama going on?? The reason your relationship failed is because you didn't provide enough drama for her. In order to date a train wreck successfully, you MUST treat them like shit sometimes. They need to feel the ups and downs in order to build attachment

Yeah, Hunter_Fox is right.

I have another thing which works though. When gf starts some stupid hysteria, or gets drunk too much or something else that doesn't come from a source you could solve, rather her own stupid bullshits, I just tell her to gtfo.

It's not "why are you doing this?"
It's not "Please stop or else..."
It's not "I don't like this..."

It's Get The Fuck Off.

Then arguments come and drama, and when drama is over, everyone is happy. She has her little needs satisfied, I kept everything under control, and the relationship can go on.

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In my opinion you must date other girls, get this one some help.

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Thanks for the info bros.
I've gone and dated a few girls but still feeling primal desire for the ex. However, I set up a date hiking with a very toned fine girl this weekend. The ex keeps asking me to meet up with her, of which about 75% of the time I do.

I spent last weekend at her new place, went out for lots of fun activities, and had hours of multi orgasmic loving. She wants to come over tonight.

I haven't been very AFC and I'm confident that I've given her the best sex ever. She hasn't shown any indication of meeting other guys. Taking steps back seems to have improved things. We had moved too fast for sure.

What I want to do now is get more control. Maybe I need to disagree and say no more.