Hello everyone.

I've been a member here for some time now, usually reading the topics and soaking up advice, but this time i'm in need of some help. I hope some of you can help me out.

I've been studying PUA for about 6 years now. I was always pretty good with picking up girls in bars and clubs. About 5 years ago i got a girlfriend. We were together for about 2 years when i started noticing some changes in our relationship. She stopped wanting to have sex, started hanging out alot with her girlfriends and started ignoring me alittle bit. This made me become really needy and clingy and alittle later she cheated on me. I think me becoming needy killed the attraction. I broke up with her.

About half a year ago i got a new girlfriend. I love this girl alot and i'm pretty sure she'll never cheat on me, but i'm beginning to notice the same patterns. When we started dating we were together alot, she texted me whenever she could. Since about 2 weeks ago she stopped texting me as much as she did and she started hanging out with her girlfriends alot more. I don't care about this, but i'm beginning to notice myself becoming needy again. I try not to show it because i know it can kill the attraction, but it's really hard because i can't stop thinking about her. It's like im the guy version of the overly attached girlfriend. It's a feeling that i can't turn off. I hate it when i see that she's been online but doesn't say a word to me. I try to get my mind off of her as much as possible by working, going to the gym and doing alot of things but i find myself texting her alot more recently then she's been texting me. I know the atraction is still here and she says she loves me all the time. i just don't want this needy feelings anymore.

Does anybody also have this? Any tips? Thanks in advance.

Don't chase her and become more emotionally invested than her. Start going out with your friends more and when you spend time with her, make it special and fun. Do something different to break out of the same pattern. Travel, go on adventure. You probably need to break more rapport again to rebuild attraction and qualify her to get invested.

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WillEdward is right, as far as what you should do - I agree...

I think you should maybe also look at the root cause of this, however:

2 relationships, 2 of the same pattern... You're the common denominator. Have you started paying less attention to her or have you changed the dynamic of your relationship at all?

This girl isn't your ex. She may not cheat on you just cause she's going out... so you can't put that on her... but you have to think about why the same thing might be happening to you again.