So I was friend zoned by a co-worker... She knew about my feelings, but didn't wanna get into relationships with me. I did freezing for a month, changed my style and behavior. She started complaining that I'm cold to her and I finally asked her out 15 days ago, took her out to an old abandoned castle in my city, tried to kiss her and she rejected me again... I was all sad, told her to treat me like everyone else at our office 'cause I can't be her friend. She started crying... she was all like "I'm just afraid, don't wanna lose you..." we finally ended up kissing and cuddling... We went out 4-5 times since then... again kissing, cuddling, but she doesn't wanna have sex, she says she's not ready, it's too fast, she needs time... the thing is, she's kind of a party girl, and I don't think sex is a big deal for her... but overall I feel like there's not much attraction to me... She's not very physical.

Do you think this is normal? Do you think she just uses me in any way? Maybe she just doesn't wanna lose the friendship? What would be your guess in this situation?

Your not out of the 'Friend Zone' yet pal.

She's still just using you as another girlfriend.

Make your move. Sex or freeze.

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She's slow-playing you.

It's half normal if she's considering you for an actual relationship. If you end up dating her long-term she doesn't want you thinking she's a slut who puts out on the first date.

Dry hump. Focus on hitting her clit. The clit has +8,000 nerve endings; the entire penis has +4,000. Penis-in-the-vagina is what gets you out of the friendzone; not kissing or cuddling.

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Dry hump - should work. Try also to play with her - closer - farther

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If I'm like everyone else, who will be like me?

Thanks for your suggestions guys. I did dry hump, we had a sleepover and she was all wet, but again, no sex. She's still a bit distant... well, she says she wants actual relationships with me.

Yea, I feel like I need to play with her for a bit (closer, farther).

How long did you dry hump her? Try playing a two hour song playlist at the background the next time you make out. Seven consecutive songs while dry humping her should do the trick. Lick her earlobes too while dry humping.

What works for me is to let the girl keep her panties on (if she's the type who wants to save her pussy for the 'right man') while I take my cock out and dry hump her. I tell the girl that I'll not put my cock in; I'll just rub my cock outside her panties because I don't want to put my cock in. At this point, I let my cock hit her clit and dry hump her clit for around 6 to 9 songs and then I tell the girl that I need to put my cock inside her panties because I'll just rub my dick on her clit, and assure her that I'll not put it inside; just rub her clit.

When verbalizing your compliance tests, never omit the word 'because'. Always say because.

Eventually after rubbing her clit with your cock for several minutes, the girl gets so hot, grabs your cock, and guides it herself inside her pussy with or without panties on.

Patience. Girls heat up gradually. Some 21 minutes or so of foreplay should get you the pussy.

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