ok so me and gf were having problems. she told me thats she's not ready to be in a relationship right now she just wants to be by herself. she told me that she's not looking to go find someones else or mess around she just not ready right now and that she's sorry for jumping into a relationship with me. she said she feels bad because i have done nothing wrong and its hard for her to let me go but thats what she wants. she said that for me not to wait and still live my life and have fun.she said if i wanna have sex i can hit her up and she will do the same. she said she would still like me to be involved in her life. she said she just has a lot or personal things going on that she needs to deal with

ok so ive been trying to act real chill with the whole situation. she had to have surgery to have a hernia removed and i wanted to be there to comfort her. i asked if i could come chill to keep her company but she said that she really just wanted to be alone and if we could reschedule. i said that was fine and left it at that. friday she asked if i had any plans and i said yea and that i was going out with my friends.

she kinda jokingly said have fun with your side girl. i didnt respond i just said i was going out. she sent me a text later saying dont forget to wrap it up and then another one 20mins later saying why are you being mad? then later another text saying why are you ignoring me i was just playing and have a good day. after the 1st text i put the phone down and was getting ready. saturday she tells me if i can come over to chill. i go over and just lay with her in the bed. well shes asleep her phone is vibrating. im curious and shes asleep so i grab her phone and check it out.

shes been talking to this guy for the past week asking him about his life and what he wants to do and things he enjoys and she tells him goodnight pumpkin or goodnight kisses and things like that. so i know she looking for more than a friendship from him and now i no shes keeping me as a safety net.

now is my question. how do i go about it without being the bad guy and shake up her world. she knows she has a hold on me and that i want to be with her.if anyway possible i would like to save the relationship but it feels likes she has no urge to want that from me. part of me wants to tell her what i saw and she whats she says. or just cut all contact. or just bust a nut in her mouth and say im done with you and leave.or just say i found someone who wants a relationship with me and im gonna pursue it. i want her to think like WTF happen i thought i was in control and have her wondering

Sucky story...

Delete, block. Move on and find a girl who isn't trash.

And why do you care about being the bad guy? She's just lied to you.

I'd be out, if it were me... Dump.

I wouldn't tell her what you saw and that you went through her phone... then she's got something to throw back at you - privacy issues and such.

... And don't go through girls' phones. You never see anything good.

yea i guess i just need to cut it and learn from this. i think part of her switching was me opening up too fast but in the end whats done is done. i just want her to feel like wow what happen but i doubt she will feel anything because shes already moved on talking to other guys