Huh? Can you explain the logic here? If you get her jealous what will happen? Will she not feel justified to sleep with someone / flirt with someone else? Will she think "wow my man can get so many girls...I should just chase him and not flirt with anyone? He's giving attention to these other girls... I should chase him?" Just asking how you see this playing out

Well it depends. But now I think that maybe because of the fact that she caught me chatting other girls. She now feels like ' Hmmm nothing wrong with flirting with these guys , my boy has done it why not?' lol

So you believe she flirted with guys because she thought it was ok since you did it?

Well, I don;t think so as she admitted that what she was doing was crossing the border of normality.
Moreover, she said to me that what I have done before (texting other girls) is nothing in comparison with the way she was texting with other guys.

What happened after we had out conversation yesterday:

I got every thing addressed I told her that I don't like this and what she does is disrespectful.
She was extremely apologetic, was begging me for a last chance saying that she wants to be with me and she will never ever do the same thing again. on which I replied, that , I don;t mind her texting other guys, but not the way she did it and asked her to stop.

She deleted her What's up application, texted all guys saying ' Please do not text me anymore, I have a boyfriend and I don't want to lose him' - Which I find abnormal, as I told her that this is not the solution and I don't want her to do this. She said you are not forcing me, that's what I want.

Another thing that I realize is that recently I have been quite lazy, expecting her to do everything, (household things), and I was lacking any social drive for achievement.
I kind of ended up comfortable with her and the lifestyle we have, (I have been delaying few quite important things, - buying a car and moving from our shitty room).

Probably, the above facts are what made my GF deviate from the normality and subconsciously open up for other opportunities. - She admitted she like being hit on, and she told me that she doesn't replay to them most of the time and they keep on texting her.
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In reality, I don't want to be with this girl in the long-run, she is not the perfect one in terms of beauty and kind of personality.

We just depend on each other, it's a relationship where we both extract value of each other, that's how it works to some extend. However, she always states that she loves so much and she is afraid of losing me.

She now broke up with her ex, and told me that she did not want to hurt him and she gradually stopped texting him often and she did not have the courage to tell he mi straight away.

At the moment, I can see that she has feelings to me I still feel that I am not showing off too much of insecurity. However, I still fucking get my heart beating out of the emotional impact and the ugly thoughts that are coming to my mind ( things like O my god she is going to cheat on me ).

I am ready for a change, I have to man up....

Another important point,

She is in the UK on a student visa.

We had a plan where we will get married so that this won't apply anymore.

Occasionally, I was creating drama saying things like ' wow , you are with me only for the visa , ect' on which she reacted like WTF - being upset and then I am like baby I am only joking. - It's just a way of playing with her emotions, but I might have done too much.

So now I told her 'if you want to be with me you can apply for a sponsorship from the company you work for. - Kind of stupid decision , maybe that projects insecurity ....

- She said I thing the visa has always been a barrier impairing our relationship, so let's forget about it I can prove to you that I want to be with you and die with you, therefore will get a sponsorship visa and prove to you that I don't care for the visa that I might if we 'get married'.

I realize that I am fucking being passive and aggressive. I am afraid that if we ' get married' only for the visa she my leave me after that.


Guys I am feeling like I am in a fucking messed up situation, or I am just making things messier and messier .

I take things too seriously, I feel like all these trauma is straightening me.


Thanks for your help it is highly appreciated .

How long have you known her?

Did you have success with women before knowing her?

I have been with her for 6 months.
This is my second serious relationship. Have never been too successful with women.

Ok. As other stated in the old thread, this girl is mental. I suspect you're afraid to leave her and couldn't walk away. Wear condoms with this chick, because a buddy of mine had a girl who needed a green card from marriage, she ended up fucking up her birth control and had a kid to get it. As to the flirting, I don't know why you keep looking for reasons. She did it to her ex. She can lie. Maybe you just need to learn a lesson from it but she wasn't gf material to begin with. If you're a guy who doesn't give a shit abt marriage and divorce, marry her.