Hi all,

So i have this GF for about a couple of months. Things were going fairly okay until I discovered a quote from her today saying the hardest decision is whether to walk away or try harder. I am actually 99 percent sure this is about our relationship. Really hate being doubted. For now, lets assume that I want to try to make things better with her and not walk away just yet. Now what should I do?

You found this on.... Facebook? Something like that?

Paranoid. Stop that shit.

Do not bring this up to her. If she's posting her feelings about your relationship on social media but won't actually talk to you about them then you're fucked anyway and it isn't going to last.

Just be your amazing, entertaining self.

I would agree with the previous person that posted that you shouldn't bring it up.

But I would disagree with all the rest he said.

I think that you need to think about your relationship and think if there is anything that could be wrong. If not then ignore. if you think there could be something try to work towards it.

If she believes something like that about what you have it means that she finds some sort of difficulty.
I guess from the way it was stated it must be one of those photos that have the message and you share from another profile. Right?
It wasn't a facebook status.

Yes youre right, no facebook but these girl kind of images.

What exactly do you mean with work towards it? You mean communicate to her about any problem or improve myself without telling her?

Right... well now it makes sense!
If it was a facebook status then I would say ok you can worry a little bit about it...
but one of those pics... usually people share them just to make other people press like lol
Usually you re-post the one that would make the best impressions to others lol
So completely ignore it.

~maria

P.S.When I said to evaluate things... I meant if you do something and you know that you are being wrong but still do it. If it was this case, then you know what to work on. You don't need someone to tell you.

I know what you mean but that shit is in some kind of diary form. It is relevant about me i'm kinda sure about that.

Well ill be seeing her today so I guess I'll be positive and see what happens.

I gotta disagree. Read over OPs prior threads and seems like this could be a sign that the relationship is not working for her. You guys don't see each other and you have been trying to maintain or get back interest and dominance. This sounds like they are her feelings

Actually, we do see each other and had a lot of fun. Though her interest in me is variable. Sometimes she really wants me and calls me etc. and the other times she is somewhat cold, moody, and these kinds of quotes appear. What to do about this?

Is this a new gf?

No

Well from your previous threads id say you've been worried about losing her interest. So this seems like a sign of that. I know girls tend to share pics they like, but that's a sad message to like. So I'm guessing it's how she feels. Any problems in the relationship? The more details you give the better.

I was with her yesterday and we started talking about different topics that had happened the past week. She also brought up that she feels that I don't really care about her feelings. Basically, I do care about her feelings but I found it hard to react when the problem was really a mental problem of her, and I couldn't do anything about it at that moment. She told me how to handle that kind of situation and it is now a lot more clear.

After being with her yesterday I do not think my GF has lost interest in me, we laughed alot and her mood was kinda positive. So I think the main problem was a lack of communication and her interpreting my behaviour as not being interested in her feelings, while this is obv not the case.

About my previous threads: this is my first serious relationship and it feels like I'm really on a intensive course of learning how to be the man women want in a relationship. These previous threads were from some time ago when I didn't know stuff that I know today. After all, I think its not going that bad because we do have fun, and these bumps like the topic of this thread are only improving my game.

Also, she told me that some drunk guy tried to kiss her at a party. She absolutely didn't want to which sounded credible. However, the point is that when she told it, I remained unaffected, not acting completely mad or jealous or something. I basically told her I'm not going to worry about that and that I trust her.

However, she didn't understand I was unaffected, and translated this to herself as me not caring. What I don't understand is that when I act a bit indifferent its not okay with her, and on the other hand being a jealous idiot would make me look like a needy beta who is afraid that he might lose her. Can anyone explain this?

This is normal. Most girls want the emotional roller coaster ride. Mix it up. Be indifferent and then be caring but NOT too caring. Let her feel that sometimes you get jealous but choose the right situation for it. Hint: NOT when she's out with her friends partying and you're not there but when she's with you.

Err on prudence though. I would say 80% indifferent and 20% caring.

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