My gf has a group of friends from school, and one guy in particular she had grown close with. I asked before if she was attracted to him and she was like "I find him most attractive out of my friends but Im not attracted to anyone but you" or something along those lines because she thinks "attracted to" is a very deep term.

I found out she messaged him "hey mister you owe me a game of pool" being all flirty. And then today I was half asleep beside her and she went on her laptop early in the morning and right away goes to his Facebook page first thing and starts stalking him when she didn't know i could see.

Obviously these are very small things, and she is a trustworthy girl who makes an effort to maintain that trust. But lately it feels like she is less interested in our relationship than I am.

Long-time lurker, this is my first post because I am pretty perplexed at what I should do. I do want to confront her and bring all of this to her attention but I know that'll make me look pretty unconfident, controlling and desperate. After reading a little bit about game, I think the appropriate response is to just not bring it up, let it go, work on myself, focus on the gym and work but I did want to reach out for advice/opinions/motivation/etc.

Thank you!

Do you think she's cheating on you? It doesn't sound like she is to me, but fucked if I know... I do not know you guys.

My policy is take them at their word until you catch them lying or you know for a fact they are being deceptive... And in this case it does not sound like she is (from the details you have provided).

So she's looking at the guy's Facebook profile - you've never looked at any girl's profile who wasn't your GF? That is quite harmless unless she's sexting the cunt or something. He may be legitimately interested in her, but again it comes down to trust... Showing your jealousy will just make you look weak and insecure.

You'll also be much happier if you stay out of her phone and messages, and just try and trust her. In the end nothing is going to work out if you can't trust the one you're with anyway.

Never completely trust a girl. It’s not in their nature to be 100% trustworthy.

Flip the script, pull the same shit on her ass. Chat up some other girls.

The second you put more worry into it than her, is the moment you are fucked.

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@op

She is NOT just looking at his profile, she is flirting with him. If he would wake up one day and tell her "wanna go on a date?" She will go.
She is thinking about him. First thing in the morning she checks his page... He was her last thought at night and first in the morning. She has FEELINGS for him.
She is also putting an effort to go meet him.
Don't you think this is enough disrespect for you to alarm you that something is going on?
She hasn't cheated yet but she is planning to cheat.
Either turn her immediately into a FB or break up from her. That girl does not deserve to be in a relationship.
She is greedy, naive and immature.

Quite a set of assumptions, _maria

You don't know these people - how the fuck would you be so certain about all of this?

Just ask her about it.... if she's lying hopefully you can tell.

You are being naive my friend.
It is obvious that she is interested in him.
What's the point of asking her if she is interested in him?
Do you know any cheater admitting they are planning to cheat if you ask them?

So - throw his relationship away cause someone on a forum told him unequivocally that his girl was cheating on him (either physically or emotionally) without any proof.

Add to that, he already trusts her.

Very easy for you to say. You gain or lose nothing.

You ask her so you can gauge her reaction. You can usually tell if people are lying, you know.

Listen Charles, that was my opinion about the situation.
I can analyse WHY I have this opinion but I am not going to explain myself about it.
If you don't like it then tough. Alright?

Yeah, it's your opinion and it's a shitty one.

Hopefully the OP can see that.

LOL whatever smartass..