Alright guys here's my first official post, even though I've been on the site for a while. Lots of great info and I gotta hand it to all y'all for helping so many with PUA and bettering our lives!

Alright here's the situation:
HB10, 27, musician but also has a good public health career. She's is slightly insecure about body and mind and also has trouble communicating her feelings at times. But all in all a great, strong, emotionally healthy, independent woman. I'm 29, great career and definitely have my insecurities and communication issues at times but all in all a great, strong, emotionally healthy, independent man. We met online about 2 months ago and really hit it off. We have so much in common and both seemed to be on the same page about life and a future relationship. We took it slow the first few weeks but then definitely accelerated the relationship and even went on a weekend trip together for some R&R. However in the last few weeks, we've been arguing and fighting a decent amount. It seems our arguments have no substance and usually are somewhat of misunderstandings including not communicating properly and making assumptions, misinterpreting a text conversation, etc. After each argument, we end up cooling down and discussing the problem like adults. We end up understanding each other better and all seems well... until the next argument. I have to admit (here and already to her) that I would overreact and identify with the situation, my thoughts, and emotions too much, which would in return always escalate the issue. She has a tendency to shut in, I have a tendency to lash out. So last Friday, we get into another bullshit argument and both agree we need to chill out for a little while. I took the weekend to reflect on my AFC behavior, the relationship, and just my life in general. Definitely did some soul searching and regained my frame. I felt a lot better and decided that I have the ability and control to approach our disagreements in a better light and take the lead in having better communication. After two days of no contact we decide to talk and definitely kept my frame and spoke my mind. I stayed calm and collective and got across everything I wanted to say exactly how I wanted to say it. She was talkative at first but as we dove deeper she became more quiet and I could tell she was in tears. I ended up telling her I wanted this relationship to work and explained how we could get past this BS arguing (which I truly believe we can). She responds with that she doesn't think we can and has been convincing herself it was over all weekend. I still kept my frame throughout all this and in an alpha sort of way explained that there is always another way of looking at things, etc (although some may feel that is somewhat AFC, I don't think that). I told her to take her time if she needs to think about it and that was that. I told her I was gonna text her from time to time and she said she'd like that. So the next day (ie yesterday), I just text along the lines "hey been thinking about ya, hope you're having an awesome day" she responds that she was thinking about me too and then a few hours later texts that she misses me. I text her later that night for good luck at her show and she makes conversation. I don't respond too much. Now today she texts me that she would like to talk in about a week from now because she needs more time to think about it. I don't respond and she then texts "and hi, sorry. I just need some more time." I haven't responded yet.

Ok so my question is fellas: How should I approach this? Should I go full NC until she contacts me this weekend? That's my thought.. go NC, live my life, and have her miss me until she contacts me. Doing that always runs the risk of her dwelling on the negatives until she convinces herself again that we shouldn't be together. I do care about her very much and definitely think this is just an early bump in the road. I'm always open to seeing things in a new perspective and maybe I'm missing something that is right in front of my face. Thanks in advance for the advice!

dude just go and talk to her face to face and solve your issues. if you really love each other then it's just a matter of adapting yourselves to each other. a relationship requires that both change and adapt some behaviours and communication. sure it's not changing personality not like that at all. but communication is always the key and imo that's what is lacking.
I also feel that you two are overthinking things too much. Just don't take things so seriously. Just relax chill out enjoy life without constantly being upset at things. If something bothers you just say it in a way that the other side will get your message.
Don't be scared of this issues because it's very normal at a start of a relationship.
And arguing is good. It makes things develop and improve. you just have to be rational and don't overreact.
calm down. everything will be fine.

Thanks man, I agree completely with everything you said. Sometimes it's necessary to take a step back and separate yourself from it all to realize subpar behavior from your partner and yourself. Unfortunately she emailed me about an hour ago explaining she can't go through with this because it is resurfacing negative feelings she has toward her verbally abusive dry-alcoholic father. So I now finally know why this hit the fan from her end.. daddy issues. I responded explaining that if she/we don't address the issues, it's going to be an unhealthy relationship in this or the next one (obviously in a much more supportive way). I care enough to help her through this and better myself along the way but it might be a lost cause at this point. Thanks for the insight.

Would definitely appreciate a few comments. Say it how it is!

UDPATE: We had a talk last night about our relationship and to make a long story short, she feels I'm insecure with some passive-aggressive behavior. I understand I've been AFC at times (and she is right to a certain extent) and have lashed out on her over nothing from time to time. However she is no angel and antagonizes me in most of our arguments. I know that is no excuse and understand "no reaction" is what would have been best. I'm aware I have some inner issues to work out or I would have responded to her bullshit in a better way. But what she says isn't my true self and the awareness of my behavior is definitely enough for me to take charge and rid myself of this self-destructive behavior. So at the end of our talk, it's concluded she has serious doubts about us working out. I understood that and kept a positive frame throughout. I accepted this relationship needs a change but in my opinion these are things that can be worked out one way or another. She is an amazing girl and owe it to myself (and her) to better myself and work this out!

This is where it gets interesting. After our talk at her place, I gave her a hug before I was leaving. However we ended up cuddling, having the best passionate sex to date, and I stayed the night. She told me multiple times that she loved me and when I left in the morning she said it again. This is completely opposite to how she was acting before we made physical contact. We texted today like things were normal and all seems as well as it could be. I'm just not sure what hand I should play at this point. You guys think she is sincere saying she loved me and that she's confused? My response was that it is ok to be confused and there doesn't need to be the pressure she is putting on it. Should I try and keep this going or take a step back? I'm not worried about being hurt, I can handle the rejection if she truly doesn't want this. I'm fine with it ending but wholeheartedly want it to work. I hope some of you have some opinions on this bc I'm not sure if this is normal for a girl to do (i.e. come as close as breaking it off with someone only to welcome the comfortability of the man, emotionally and physically right after). I've never been in a situation like this before. Part of me makes me think she just felt vulnerable and wanted the comfort but the other part of me thinks she is sincere. I just could use another opinion on the matter!