Girlfriend of a year broke up with me 2 days ago. We sometimes work in the same vicinity but not with each other (how we met). I invite her to grab some coffee during a break. She's stressed and distant so I try to open her up a bit to figure out what's going on. After finally getting her completely opened she tells me that she decided on her way to work that morning our relationship needed to end. The rest of the day we avoided each other for work sake. Of course, the day after she is already texting me.

In reality I know what I want is for my relationship with her to continue. Our relationship was very deep. Definitely my best friend and screened her personality and characteristics thoroughly; looking towards marriage and children. I knew when she dumped me (more on her reasoning later) that it was immediately time to move forward with my life. Initiated NC and continued living my life the way I would if she wasn't a part of it. Already have a meet up set for tomorrow with a woman I used to sleep with and be close to.

Girlfriend conversation-
mid day at work the day after break up
Her: How are you doing?
Me: Well. What's up?
Her:Just making sure you're ok is all.
Me: Yeah, you good?
Her: No
Me: I'll give you your space
Her: If you need to talk...I will listen
Me: Same here

end of work day-
An assembly was called and she and coworker were recognized and given a small award in front of everyone for an accomplishment. On my way out for the day I gave a nudge to above her elbow with my hand as I was walking past her talking to a supervisor and coworker. Looked at her and said "Congrats" but didn't stop walking. She looked at me very deeply and said "Thank you" much more quietly than she usually would. She immediately texts me
Her:Are you leaving?
Again: I could use a hug...
Me (after I got home): Yes I left right after. You may stop by if you think it's a good idea
Her: Probably not. Have three people to take home. [She and them live 2 hours away]
Me: Have a safe drive
Her: Thank you

She shortly sends me a picture of a sticky note I left on one of the HR persons computer and asks "What does this mean (my name)?" I ignored her request. The note simply had a code on it referring to a work assignment that came up that day that I could possibly take and my name on it. The assignment would end our working in the same vicinity and we had prior talked about maintaining our current locations because of the convenience and enjoyment of it. I would have ignored this assignment before because I enjoyed where I was at but it interested me so I was pursuing it. I knew when she sent the picture to me that she had an idea about what it was about and an hour later she texts me again.
Her: (Title of assignment opportunity)?
[She would have had to do research on the code or asked someone to know what it meant]
Me: Yes (that code) is (this assignment)
Her: Are you trying to transfer your (assignment)?
Me: (Boss) is trying to hook me up. There aren't many spots
Her: Why that (assignment)? Where? Why wouldn't you tell me after how mad you got at me for not telling you something with my career.
[2 weeks ago I stumbled upon information about her taking an assignment out of the country for over a year. Her doing this was not actually in her best interest, though she believed so. Tricky to explain. Our relationship was already in a bad spot. She was keeping it a secret from me until after the paperwork was completed and the decision was final. The situation was resolved by putting it in the back of my mind because I believed the current state of our relationship was affecting her judgement.]
Her again: Two wrongs don't make a right
Me: (Her name) that wasn't okay
Her: Are you going to inform me?
Me: The way you asked was so wrong
Her: I'm sorry. I just want to be over that stage with each other. Just bc I did that to you doesn't mean you should do that to me.
Her again: And vice versa
Me: I don't know what you mean by "that stage." Conversations like this really don't work over text
Her: I would just like you to answer my questions (my name)

Moving forward with my life and her not being my girlfriend anymore I did not respond. At 2 am she texts me again
Her: Look I'm sorry that I ask about the (assignment) ordeal so bitchy but it just frustrates me that you are hiding things from me (you always do) [she thinks this, it is an insecurity of hers, but not true]{she actually used parenthesis, they are not a replacement as I have been using} especially since we got so damaged by me hiding something about my career. And the fact that you found out about mine and I answered all your questions, and now you can't answer mine is aggravating.

NC, I did not respond. She text me again as I was writing this thread
Her: (my name). I told you that if you needed to talk that I would listen and you said same with you. I need to talk to you about this.

I did not respond to this either

As previously stated I would like to work this situation to win her back and continue our relationship positively.

Things were progressively going downhill 3 months ago and REALLY bad the last month. It was basically a month of staying committed to each other but communication was way off and we only saw each other 2 separate days the entire month and no sex or good vibes/fun when together. We both felt and acted single without being unfaithful/out of boundaries but both wanted and were trying to find a way to get better.

We live 2 hours apart so we have always had a LDR but for a bulk of our relationship she would often stay with me for half a week/week at a time when able (she could usually work from home and had classes at university only 2 days a week). The distance was always difficult for her to handle and often made her insecure, regardless we managed and our relationship flourished when together.

Sex was always phenomenal and never lacking in our relationship. Usually 4-6 times a day when together. We are both very physically affectionate people and she is all about the sex is an expression of love mantra. Wow does that woman Love. She has only had sex with 1 other person, her prior serious relationship right before me of 6 months. Apparently guy was insecure, abusive, and from what she has said about him and how she has acted towards me the guy definitely wasn't hitting it right and she had no idea how great sex could be until me. She ended it when the guy got drunk and punched her in the face. I sometimes wonder if her sexual inexperience has an effect on our relationship and contributes to her insecurities

I not being used to the depth of a relationship like ours had at times not communicated things properly and had some boundary problems with other women (never cheated, never would, but the flirting and friendships with touching, etc. were sometimes out of bounds for a near marriage relationship). These situations were extremely stressful on our relationship at times and only added to her insecurities but we always found a way to overcome them and we both learned or were learning how to be appropriate to each other.

When she broke up with me she had several reasons that strung together. Mainly she is confused about her life. She doesn't know where she wants to go with her career, life goals, etc. And her mounting insecurities and emotions for me are too much for her to handle. She has been in 4 ltr's her entire life with only short breaks in between. As an example there were 2 months between me and her prior boyfriend. Always talks to lame guys in between but never goes anywhere physical with them, probably just for attention. The guy she was talking to in between me and her prior ex was such a bitch I almost felt bad for him. She feels she cannot handle the depth of our relationship or her feelings for me and needs time to figure out who she wants to be and how to live her life without a relationship before she can fully be happy in one. She has hopes that she will develop in this time and that we will get back together in a year or so. She stated while crying that she "Doesn't want to fuck other guys and the point of this is for her to be single and alone to figure out how to live her life but understands if I need that from other women."

Really I hope the best for her and that she figures out what she needs. Hopefully it would be great for that to happen as quickly as possible so that we may continue. I personally believe that with the depth and stated commitment of our relationship that these things could be worked out within parameters that still maintained the relationship but there was no way to make her see it that way. I would say I have a bit of oneitis for her, but it comes from a want of her to be a part of my life though not a necessity. As stated I have already moved forward with the pursuits in my life and would not take her back at this point until she has learned what is needed.

I feel that she will come back to me when she is ready, but are there any ways that I could alleviate some of her insecurities so that she will feel comfortable coming back to me sooner? Should I continue the NC route for a long time? With the way she is texting me I do not feel it is best to respond, only respond if the texts are enjoyable for both of us and make her chase me positively rather than negatively as she is now. I feel a woman would want their mate around for comfort from other stresses at least. I'm not going to push it though she is the one that will have to WANT to come back if we are going to get back together. Hopefully I am able to expedite this if possible.

We will be in the same work vicinity for 17 days straight no weekends off starting in two weeks so there is that to consider. Could get messy or could ruin the NC as we will have to see each other at some point almost every day