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PostPosted: Tue Apr 29, 2014 2:46 pm 
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Hello,

I really need some help on this, hopefully an expert or someone with a similar experience could advise me.

So I was really good friend with a girl that lived on the west coast (I live in the east coast so we were pretty far away). Because of work I went to her city and asked for a couple of days off to be with her (as friends) and know her city. Something happened that we ended up hooking up on the trip and I completely fell for her.

After this trip it was a coincidence thar we both went to our home city for a couple of weeks. We hang there and chemistry was so intense I ended up asking her to be my gf and she accepted. We knew long distance was hard but we figured we would find a way. First couple of monthd were ok, I visited her and things were going great.

However afer a while I started noticing she stopped responding me so much and generally not as happy when we talked. (I called/messaged her A LOT) She went on vacations for a week and I lost it, I became so needy and she wouldnt answer me, I called her like 40 times over the week. We talked after she returned from her trip and she told me I was invading her space so much she didnt want to continue in the relationship.

I kept messaging her and sending her needy messages for the last week. I now realize this was the mistake I was making which pushed her away from me. I have stopped this, however I really want her back.

I have been relocated for work and will be living 4 hours away from her (driving distance). In 1 week I will be moving to that closer city and will have 2 weeks before starting work.

Tell me what do you think of my plan: I am planning on appearing randomly in her apartment and see what happens (will automatically try and kiss her, dont know what her reaction will be, she probably will stop me). I can visit her in 1 week or in 2 weeks and we broke off 1 week ago. I will be trying to upload some pictures with some female friends to try and make her jealous. In the meantime I wont be messaging her (she doesnt message me back anyways)

What do you think of my plan? Should I visit her in 1 week or wait and visit her in 2 weeks? She is a solid 10 and shes very easy going so everybody hits on her so Im scared someone will get her.

Thank you for your advise guys and sorry for the long post


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PostPosted: Tue Apr 29, 2014 3:25 pm 
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I've been there and it sucks. While very tough, your situation sounds fairly vanilla.

She already told you to stop invading her personal space. You have to let her make the first move towards you. If she cares she'll call or text soon enough-- but only if you give her space. In fact, I wouldn't contact her at all. When she contacts you, reply as you would to a friend-- keep everything positive, fun, and exciting. Mention NOTHING about your lost relationship with her. If she mentions missing you or wanting to see you, suggest something casual first-- but again do NOT talk about your relationship.

Your past is the pink elephant in the room. She is as acutely aware of it as you, by NOT needing to discuss it you are showing yourself to have mature emotions. Mature, stable emotions are alpha. Needy, bitchy, desperate, dramatic, out of control emotions are beta, and HIGHLY unattractive to women.

You are in a very sensitive situation with her. Showing up at her apartment will be highly counterproductive, and may result in her never speaking to you again, seriously DO NOT INVADE HER PERSONAL SPACE.

You don't need this girl, she needs to understand that before she will contact you again.

Does she know you are moving closer to her?

If I were you, I would accept in your head that she is gone, start living your life making sure to date other high quality girls. She will notice your independence (especially since you are keeping your distance but now live closer to her), which gives her a chance to miss you...then long for you...then reach out to you.

Since you chased her away, if you reach out first you will only chase her away more. Showing up at her apartment unannounced is the absolute wrong move.


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PostPosted: Tue Apr 29, 2014 7:32 pm 
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Hey man,

I skimmed through this whole thing, but if you want to give me a shorter concise version reach out to me in my inbox and i'll be able to tailor something a little more directly at you.

Anyway..

I give this advice to another member recently and judging from what I've skimmed through you maybe able to grab a jewel or two from it.

"There is no concrete evidence to back what I am about to say. Its more of a metaphysical thing, but what I've experienced and what many people I've known have experienced is women can always hold out for a moment longer than the point where it seems almost unbearable for men. By unbearable I mean.. At the point where you are feeling like " Fuck this shit.. I'm going to just call/text/ her". When its so strong is the point at which she is thinking about contacting you the most.

Energy always follows thought.

Now let me say; if you reach out to contact her at this point, you will be putting off an opportunity for you to learn the power of letting the woman go. And this is a lesson all men must learn before they can become truly successful with women. You only learn this lesson by letting go out of choice, not necessity.

Men tend to thank they've let women go after they texted her 10 times, called her 3 and she ignore them. Thats not letting the woman go. Thats called picking the only option you have left. You let go out of necessity, not choice. So you don't acquire the stronger sense of presence/aura that attracts women that a man acquires from letting go of women he still has a chance with. You don't grow - you don't learn. You stay on your current level.

I could go on and on about this, but the moral of the passage is; if you're interested in growing in the long run, I would leave this one alone. She may reach out - she may not, but what you will acquire will be much more beneficial than any one relationship ever could be.

Now if that isn't your interest and you feel both comfortable and content with where you are on your journey. Call her don't text. Call her up and let her know that you'd still like to continue to see her. Be cool and be calm; like you've been busy in life lately, but you've accomplished a few things and you now have time to date again. A woman is always responsive to that kind of energy.

With all due love in respect,

Peace bro."
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PostPosted: Thu May 01, 2014 7:34 am 
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Do not go to her apartment.

Do not try and kiss her.

Do not text her.

Leave her be and game other women. You have to let her go. She doesn't know your work had you relocate. She'll think you packed up everything, your possessions and belongings and social life, to be with her. She'll perceive you as needy and she'll freak the fuck out.

A woman's imagination is the best tool you have at your disposal. She doesn't hear from you, she'll wonder why. She sees pictures of you on the west coast, she'll wonder what you're doing out there. If she contacts you and finds out you've been near her, she'll wonder why you haven't contacted her. Maybe she was forgettable, maybe there's a woman better than her that you've met. Lack of clarification breeds wondering, so...clarify nothing unless she reaches out to you. Don't pretend to have fun in the meantime. Fucking enjoy yourself.

If she does reach out to you, you need to flip the script and make her the chaser. Tell her you're having an amazing time on the west coast, which has 0% to do with her. If she wants to see you, she has to come to you. Do not drive four hours out of the way to see her.

This is like the movie "Braveheart". Hold...hold...hold...and if/when she reaches out...execute.
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PostPosted: Sun May 04, 2014 8:39 pm 
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"There is no concrete evidence to back what I am about to say. Its more of a metaphysical thing, but what I've experienced and what many people I've known have experienced is women can always hold out for a moment longer than the point where it seems almost unbearable for men. By unbearable I mean.. At the point where you are feeling like " Fuck this shit.. I'm going to just call/text/ her". When its so strong is the point at which she is thinking about contacting you the most.

Energy always follows thought.

Now let me say; if you reach out to contact her at this point, you will be putting off an opportunity for you to learn the power of letting the woman go. And this is a lesson all men must learn before they can become truly successful with women. You only learn this lesson by letting go out of choice, not necessity.

Men tend to thank they've let women go after they texted her 10 times, called her 3 and she ignore them. Thats not letting the woman go. Thats called picking the only option you have left. You let go out of necessity, not choice. So you don't acquire the stronger sense of presence/aura that attracts women that a man acquires from letting go of women he still has a chance with. You don't grow - you don't learn. You stay on your current level.

I could go on and on about this, but the moral of the passage is; if you're interested in growing in the long run, I would leave this one alone. She may reach out - she may not, but what you will acquire will be much more beneficial than any one relationship ever could be.

Now if that isn't your interest and you feel both comfortable and content with where you are on your journey. Call her don't text. Call her up and let her know that you'd still like to continue to see her. Be cool and be calm; like you've been busy in life lately, but you've accomplished a few things and you now have time to date again. A woman is always responsive to that kind of energy.
I've read this forum off and on for a few years now. Very successful with women, some of it is because of this forum. I'm in a rut with a woman that makes me want to finally settle down (this is huge for me, I'm 34 and never thought about settling down). I've done everything that would keep most women interested, but it isn't working with this one.

That being said, even though I am certain that leaving her be will not improve my odds of ever being with her again, your nuggets of wisdom have certainly enlightened me. If it works, then great, if not, I am confident that it's a choice of my own, not that it is the only choice I have left. I feel empowered in a way I never have before, especially after rocking her world one last night.

For this, I thank you.


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"There is no concrete evidence to back what I am about to say. Its more of a metaphysical thing, but what I've experienced and what many people I've known have experienced is women can always hold out for a moment longer than the point where it seems almost unbearable for men. By unbearable I mean.. At the point where you are feeling like " Fuck this shit.. I'm going to just call/text/ her". When its so strong is the point at which she is thinking about contacting you the most.

Energy always follows thought.

Now let me say; if you reach out to contact her at this point, you will be putting off an opportunity for you to learn the power of letting the woman go. And this is a lesson all men must learn before they can become truly successful with women. You only learn this lesson by letting go out of choice, not necessity.

Men tend to thank they've let women go after they texted her 10 times, called her 3 and she ignore them. Thats not letting the woman go. Thats called picking the only option you have left. You let go out of necessity, not choice. So you don't acquire the stronger sense of presence/aura that attracts women that a man acquires from letting go of women he still has a chance with. You don't grow - you don't learn. You stay on your current level.

I could go on and on about this, but the moral of the passage is; if you're interested in growing in the long run, I would leave this one alone. She may reach out - she may not, but what you will acquire will be much more beneficial than any one relationship ever could be.

Now if that isn't your interest and you feel both comfortable and content with where you are on your journey. Call her don't text. Call her up and let her know that you'd still like to continue to see her. Be cool and be calm; like you've been busy in life lately, but you've accomplished a few things and you now have time to date again. A woman is always responsive to that kind of energy.
I've read this forum off and on for a few years now. Very successful with women, some of it is because of this forum. I'm in a rut with a woman that makes me want to finally settle down (this is huge for me, I'm 34 and never thought about settling down). I've done everything that would keep most women interested, but it isn't working with this one.

That being said, even though I am certain that leaving her be will not improve my odds of ever being with her again, your nuggets of wisdom have certainly enlightened me. If it works, then great, if not, I am confident that it's a choice of my own, not that it is the only choice I have left. I feel empowered in a way I never have before, especially after rocking her world one last night.

For this, I thank you.
That makes me feel good man. Thanks for taking out the time from your life to make me aware of this. It is the attitude that you've shown hear that truly breeds men who live in abundance. Too many of us take what appears to be free and make no attempt to give back. And when we don't give back, the time gaps between when we will receive again grow further and further apart. So thank you once again.

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