_maria I'm very fucked up you're right. However how did you get to that conclusion? It seems as if you're making wide assumptions based off nothing.

Define the wide assumptions and I will explain why I think that.

Never mind, I feel this might move in a negative direction if I entertain it and I'd much prefer the constructive alternative.

This situation happened to me as well recently.

I'm in a fucked up spot in life, and was emotionally distant. I did as close to zero to show my last GF that I cared as would be possible and still have a relationship.

Also, the ex really wants to get married and have kids soon, which is impossible with my current situation.

Naturally, she wasnt all that into me as a LTR candidate... and after 3 months she decided to move on.

Of course, I immediately snapped out of my funk and started to see her as someone I couldn't lose in my life (amazing how i never realized that while dating her!) I began acting all AFC-ish. For the first time I opened up emotionally to her, which bought us a short round 2-- but ultimately noone is attracted to the AFC. I ended up turning her off by over-texting, etc... After a few weeks of acting like a huge PUSS, I knew I had to end things for good. (Not a proud moment for me fellas...)

In YOUR situation, you also were not the best BF. She decided to move on to find someone more compatible. You feelings towards her are largely a result of her flipping the script on you. You=cat, her=string. Your chances of getting her back are slim.

Conclusion: have a heart to heart with her, but be prepared to move on. Next time, appreciate your woman while you still have her.