Hey guys,

This is my first post, although I've been reading advice on here for a long time now - it's reached a point where I need to ask something more specific. I've tried to keep it concise.

Been seeing this girl for a year and I feels like things are going to shit and I'm out of ideas.
She definitely doesn't react to things like your average woman!??!

Go easy on me bros! I appreciate your input.




Situation
Essentially she's been getting stressed over work recently and attaching those bad feeling to our relationship.

She has a high workload right now (say as mine) and she's worrying about how much time she can invest in the relationship (especially in the future). All this worry causes her trouble getting work/study done - which makes things worse.
Seems like she's blowing things out of proportion and is in this vicious circle which I can't do anything about.



Background
When I first met her she didn't want any kind of relationship. She'd been cheated on in the past and is really career minded. However, she's hot, fit and intelligent and after some serious gaming we became fuck buddies and have been seeing each other more seriously for the last six months.
However in a couple of months, we'd have to go long-distance (say 3 hour drive for 1 year)
Things are cool when we're together (usually once / twice per week) and sex definitely isn't a problem.
I've fucked up and reacted to her shit tests recently.
She's pushing me away on the phone, and avoiding meeting - in the past, when things have been sketchy she's been unable to resist me face to face (haha).
I'm taking a step back at the moment in the hope that she'll chill once she's on top of work - she say she doesn't think she can do this anymore. On the plus side she says she's getting on top of the work situation.




Assessment
When we're together she's into me, but she's getting stressed and building stuff up in her head. We're both in the same line of work so I know she's not going to be as busy over the next 12 months as she thinks she'll be.

* I've lost value and need to regain it.

* Maybe it's not worth the effort and things are screwed already because of the long distance aspect and her not being invested enough

* Next time we meet I need to just remind her of the good feelings and avoid the serious relationship talk which she finds stressful




Questions

Is this already broke?

Any ideas how I can detach myself from the bad feelings?

Or any strategies for reminding her of the good feelings between now and whenever we next meet?




Muchos Gracias,

Change your balanced investment strategy.

Your currently investing way more than her, turn that shit around!
Your becoming clingy and needy, even at a distance. Your hot and sexy vibe is getting its ass kicked by your needy and clingy actions.

Her work load has little to do with this.

See, to girls clingy guys are like Wedgies, they just can't pull them out of their ass fast enough and they won’t care who’s looking!

Check yourself, Yes, actually calling and texting someone every 3 minutes does make you clingy.

Signs of Neediness:
1. Buying gifts.
2. Romantic gestures.
3. Expressing your desire.
4. Doing “favors” without reciprocation.
5. Chasing.
6. Over calling/text messaging. (no more than 1 to 1) EVER!

If you find yourself doing any of these things, YOU ARE BEING NEEDY!

Do you assume that every second that she isn't in your sight you start to assume that she's had had six dicks in her already?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Thanks man, you're totally right (except for the thinking she's had 6 dicks in her!! Haha)

Question is I guess, what can be done?

Obviously, I need to stop chasing her and freeze her out for the time being.
Give it long enough and she's want to know what I'm up to.

- Problem is we're both studying and there's now only 10 weeks or so until the end of our course. i.e. so I have a finite amount of time to fix this... Otherwise it's going to end up as friends and game her all over again sometime down the line if I still want it.
Would have to be pretty tight game to pull it off.


Timetable is as follows:
3-4 weeks of placements/study
1 week Easter (she'll almost certainly want to go home)
7 weeks of placement (1st one pretty full on, then relatively chilled)
{Meant to be going to a conference together after 3rd week}
4 weeks off - (were talking about holiday together)
Graduation weekend
2 weeks off
Start work couple of hours apart


I'd be surprised it she hasn't got in touch by this time next week, because she'll want to know news about exactly where I'll be working for the next year.

Now your on the right track Bro.

Keep contact brief, sexual and aloof.
When she doesn't know what your up to...she will wonder.
When she wonders, she is thinking about you.
The more she thinks about you and your unknown doings, the more she convinces her self how attached to you she is.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Thanks buddy, that's helpful.