Hi Guys,

I met this girl few weeks ago, and since then we saw each other about 7 time. The connection without not doubt was instantly!

The following some of the text messages that she sent me in between our dates:

"That i want to go back to last night and sit there again with you, and stop the time"

"Morning XX. Took a shower like every morning. But somehow I still have your kisses all over, will carry them with me all day I think "

"Why I choose you...? Well, instinct. And I guess wanting to know more about you, simply. Liking your messages, loving how you reacted Saturday, had a lot of fun, couldn't forget the feeling of your arm around me, feeling a warmth through my body when thinking about that arm, and now really liking your kisses too."

"Dreamt of you!"

"Miss you"

"And thanks for holding my hand today. Almost made me cry."

As you can see, no doubt she have feelings for me! and now comes the tricky part!
She a have a son which she shares with her ex. but their relationship is really bad. 2 weeks ago, their fights started escalating, and she sent me this text:

"Dear XX thanks a lot for your kind words. I am ok, or not really. Things went really wrong and I dont know what to do the best for my son, which is my main focus right now. I am sorry, but I dont think i will have room to let you or anyone into this mess right now. I feel bad about this, but that is just how it is. I need to get my shit together, and get up. Kiss XX"

I know I need to give her time, which I told her that I'll do. But I also know that this situation is temporary, and she will sort things out with her ex.

I was thinking to give her a week + and if she doesn't contact me, then I will just ask her, how she is doing, and not more then that... not to pressure her!!

Last Thursday I text her:

Me: "Hey xx
How are you doing?
/xxx"

No response ...

Friday morning I sent another text:

Me: "Good morning sunshine,
How's Z is doing? One of my friends son just got chickenpox, pure guy, can hardly sleep he looks like a Zombie:
Btw, Something came up and I'll might have to go to XXX (my home land)
Your hero."

Then Saturday I got this from her:

Her: "Dear xxx - I hope you doing well.
Have a nice trip to xxx M"


I have been dating for the past 7 years, I didn't count how many. But I do know, she is something that I have NEVER encounter before. Normally I would just move on, but this time I don't want just to give up!

Last week her ex went away for a business for few months, and I hope things will come down a bit.

I just want to know, if there is anything else I can do, except giving her time, and wait for her to text me back, which I doing think will happen if I wont take the first step!

I hope someone can help!? And if you need more info, please let me know!
Thanks!

BTW.
Last time she was in my place, she forgot her Scarf. Few days after the bad text she sent me, I have tried to come by her place and return it to her, but she felt asleep and couldn't hear the doorbell and my call. The day after she texted me, and she told me what happen and how she felt bad that she couldn't hear the doorbell!

Do you still have the scarf? Return it to her in a private location, preferably your place, and escalate.

After sex tell her you want her 'back' if that's what you want.

Yes, I have thought about it. But I don't know how to invite her to my place or me going to her place, without seen desperate and needy to see her!???

She seemed to fall pretty hard for you and possibly she didn't want to get swept up with another guy. Seems like "logic" took over at the moment. Need to get her FEELING that closeness to you. Seems like if you are to get alone with her she may come around. If in the moment you can have her feeling those feelings again you're in a good spot.

Tell her you're cleaning your place and if she doesn't come by to pick up the scarf you're going to throw it away. Or ANY excuse to get her over, but it seems like the scarf is the easiest one you have right now.

Also remember she felt bad she couldn't hear the doorbell - it damn sure wasn't because she wanted her scarf back. Step up and see what happens.

Hi oceanx,

Thanks, you are right. I know if will be in the same room together, all her feeling for me will come back to her! But before using the scarf to bring her in, I need to make the ground more soft, and I think I know what to do

I'll get back to you soon with the results

Man, sorry but this seems a bit odd. How come she didn't hear the door bell.
Just act like it is all okay (best strategy in my opinion). Whatever you do ... yeahhh it is okay

She puts the volume down when her son is asleep!

You don't want to give them time in scenarios like this. You want to ride their emotions sooner rather than later, touch them when they're at their highest emotional level in regards to you, not back down -- back down only if they're pissed off and full of negative energy directed at you.

In situations like this you come across as the sweet, mature guy that has a thing for her and what you two have is something great. This gets her upset over missing you, thinks about you more and wants to see you.

She has excess baggage and any woman who comes on that strongly so soon is usually a bit of a psycho so tread carefully.

If you haven't had sex yet, you shouldn't be investing this much into her. "Sunshine" made me vomit in my mouth a bit. You are being needy as fuck. This is why she stopped contacting you. You never made her work for your affection, you just gave it to her on a plate.

Your mindset is wrong. The way you should see the situation is: Does SHE still have a chance with ME? not the other way round. You are the one with the luxury of choosing who you fuck, not her.

To answer you questions, we did have sex and she did invest. I haven't been needy at all, she made most of the texting to me and we met when we had time.

I think she is trying to push me away because of her situation with her Ex and she doesn't want me involve in it! But what she doesn't know is, that even if she wanted it me, to get involve with what is going on with her Ex, I just can't and it would never happen. I failed to say that to her, I thought if I'll just give her time, and act like nothing happen, that will help. So far it didn't help, and it seems like I'll have to be a lot more creative!