Sup,

So I have been in a great relationship for almost a year now. I want to continue this relationship.

The problem is during different parts of our first year I feel myself "not caring is she leaves." The reason I feel this way is because I think relationships are best when each members "life is not destroyed" if the other leaves.

I always gone about feeling that I care about my woman very very much however that I have a great individual life and that I can always start more great relationships. I want to emphasize again that I do care about this woman a lot.

So the question is, 1.)what do you all think about how the man in a relationship should feel about break up? Should he feel he is an alpha and that he can start more great relationships? As I said if I were to break up I would feel some sadness, but I am always dominant enough that I know I will find other great relationships.

My second quick question is, 2.)how should a man feel about "emotional" situations in a relationship? Me personally, I see the big picture of my individual life and the relationship I am in. So when possible "emotional" situations occur. I am simply unmoved, mostly not mad because I have my eye on the prize.

Thanks for all your feedback

Feelings are places where "should" does not apply. There is no right way to feel, only the actual way you feel. I wouldn't try to manufacture a feeling or focus on it. The best thing to do is be aware of how you currently feel, accept it and proceed accordingly.

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Agreed. You can't control how you feel, but you can acknowledge how you feel and control how you react to your feelings.

As men, this is a harder lesson for us to learn, because social conditioning teaches us to ignore feelings.

yeah theres no should or should not in this situation.
Just dont get stepped on and keep your dignity.
It'll all work out.

thanks for all your feed back