I could really, REALLY use some help... Ive not had sex in about 3 months now (when i first started talking to my girlfriend). Before that I was becoming really good at game, and had more than a few girls practically on speed dial I could call at any time and get some. I was valued high in many situations and every social circle. Game was fun but I found a girl who I wanted to give a real shot with because I could tell she was a genuinely nice person.


We've been going out for about 2 months now and I have not seen anymore than 3 hand jobs during this time. I'm forced to pursue her sexually essentially every time because she never makes the first move, and she often is the one ending it short. She is naturally shy and much more of an introvert. She doesnt seem insecure about her body, but she has told me she is kind of inexperienced with fooling around.

Work and school only allows me to see her about twice a week.. so not trying to advance on her every time i see her is incredibly difficult...


I really need some help and ideas on maybe how to get her to turn around and be more open with me sexually. I've talked to her about it and still nothing has changed.. I am an attractive person. I'm being starved in this department and I want to try to make things work. Ive given myself a 2 week limit to try to turn things around because I havent been able to figure it out for myself for a while now...

Thanks for any insight.

You forgot to mention how does she react when you escalate

You mention school…how old is she??

If you've talked to her about it, what was her argument against being sexual? Too soon? Too early? Doesn't want to? Is a virgin? You need to supply that info or we can't help you.

Your age is also a factor here...

Sorry guys,


Were both 22 years old

When i escalate she is basically non-responsive. When we're in the bedroom its me doing all the work and her basically just laying there. When i escalate with her before the bedroom i get no more than a smile. But only seeing her twice a week or so I feel like i dont have much of an option to not do this.. Yet maybe shes come to expect it..?


Her argument against being sexual was that it is too soon.. I see it completely differently, i think in the first few months especially is when you're going at it the most (the "honeymoon phase" of being with someone new), so this is a problem im trying to not screw myself over in the long run.


Shes the quiet and shy type but it's driving me absolutely nuts how i cant get her to come onto me. Like shes the only girl I've been with who i can't get to do it and cant get a response.

She's been in 3 relationships and had sex with 3 different guys (im assuming all ex-boyfriends but i dont know for sure). None of them have lasted longer than (i think she said) 3 months. So three guys have done it before me in less than 3 months? And im stuck at square one in danger of blowing myself out as maybe only wanting sex (which is not true, it's just a big thing to me)


I've had problems connecting game techniques to actual relationships so I could really use some advice, if anything specifically would transfer over well.... Thanks

Some girls take a while. If she sees you as a legitimate long-term relationship prospect she may want to wait to be sure, or she may not want to seem like a slut.

Arguing with her about it and telling her she's wrong - and that it's not too soon won't help. I also would not look at the situation like 3 other guys beat you to the punch cause they did it sooner. Who knows what the circumstances were - and maybe she thinks she fucked up with them and is taking it slower with you as a result.

Girls think with emotions.

You'll either have to stick with it and continue escalating, or find another girl, honestly.

Girls with sexual hang ups are best avoided.

Or she could have a more legit reason, talk to her. My ex didn't sleep with me for a month, turns out she was anxious because earlier in the year she had been fitted with a coil to address a minor hormone imbalance and it made her nervous. We eventually got there, but even after that we were sexually incompatible and she had all sorts of hang ups.

OP:

By what you have described something seems off... I wouldnt take it personally... but the average it takes for a girl to sleep with a guy is right around 7 hours if you have been properly kino escalating (mystery method for building enough comfort so you wont have LMR).

In my experience this is extremely accurate. Out of all the girls I have slept with (which hasnt been that many but it hasnt been not a lot either) I have only had 1 who wouldnt go all the way with me after 2 dates. IF she is that type of girl... i would find another one.

I know that may sounds super shallow... but this is something you cant change in a girl. Unless there has been something wrong in your kino escalation process (where you havnt built enough comfort and she sees you as just a friend?) I would explore other options.

GL!
Duke

I always tend to try before I buy!

remember last month going for one drink then getting straight in the car, drove round to somewhere quiet and fucked her silly....

some are just want it more!

the next week I tried the same thing with another girl, same bar and everything! haha!

she took me back to hers, we had some fun but she thought sex was too soon, we met up 3 more times before we had sex...



treat her to something like a meal, make up loads of romantic crap

then say we should make love!

how are you escalating?



I tend to tease the shy ones like this:

"youre trouble! I can see it in your eyes!"

"the quiet ones are always the worst!"