So I was revisiting Dale Carnegie's classic, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
This got me to thinking, what sort of thing would it take to hook a woman. I don't mean for simply attracting her, but to REALLY hook her. I'm talking about the kinds of things that make her feel as though she can't live without you.

Now most guys go out with their "strawberries and cream." They put the woman on a pedestal, buy her things, take her to fancy restaurants, you know... the usual nice-guy's playbook.

So I decided to start this thread for all to contribute. What are the things that women crave deep down in their souls. I'm looking for something more... elemental.

Women will throw themselves at you if you demonstrate the ability to fill some void in their lives. I'll get us started. Please add to my list:

Praise/Approval
Sense of protection/security
Love
Good sex
Sense of importance/that she is special (Accomplishing this is a bit tricky without SPAM your power.)
Fun
Excitement/Adventure
Comfort
Connection
Trust
Sexual Tension
Attraction
Spontaneity
Check and balance (Basically a man who knows how to say "no.")
Chemistry
Relief of pressure/ Freedom from responsibility concerning matters of leadership/decision.
Poise and Presence
Reassurance

If a woman FEELS these things in her life and associates their source as you, she will be undoubtedly head over heels devoted to you. Please help expand this list.

1. The gift of missing you. Why hasn't he called? What's he doing right now?

2. Unpredictability. He loves me, he loves me not.

3. Sexual attraction. Damn, he's hot. I wonder how his love warrior feels inside my treasured flower.

4. Hatred. Fuck that asshole. I can't sleep thinking about what he did. He's such a jerk!

5. Skillful banging. I called to tell you that I'm still thinking about what we did last Sunday... How you pounded my cervix so fast and hard... How you played with my clit while stimulating my g-spot... How you ate my pussy for hours...

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Oh yes. The gift of missing you. I cant believe I forgot it, it's one of my favorites. Good job.

Not really sure what the point of this post is.

"Praise/Approval
Sense of protection/security
Love
Good sex
Sense of importance/that she is special (Accomplishing this is a bit tricky without SPAM your power.)
Fun
Excitement/Adventure
Comfort
Connection
Trust
Sexual Tension
Attraction
Spontaneity
Check and balance (Basically a man who knows how to say "no.")
Chemistry
Relief of pressure/ Freedom from responsibility concerning matters of leadership/decision.
Poise and Presence
Reassurance"

Are all universal basic needs everybody strives to have met. Meeting any one, or a variety of them won't ensure somebody 'throws themselves at you', as for example meeting one's need for trust can often be done through friendship.


TO expand on 'gift giving'. Hearing unmet needs in others and giving them the gift of meeting those needs will definitely demonstrate value, this is the premise behind Marshall Rosenberg's Non-Violent Communication. In short, rather than hearing criticisms, judgments, or evaluations, you instead listen for unmet needs (what he calls "tragic expressions of unmet needs). Once you're able to do this you become responsive to people rather than reactive, should be part of EVERY PUA's learnings.