This is my first post on this forum. Hope to seek advice in this current stage of my relationship. (around 3-4 months)

Met online and chatted for a month and decided to meet up. Got physical on the second date. (I could have f-close but i held it). We continued dating for a barely a week before I flew off for my work for 3 months. We SPAM everyday and got on quite well and later found out that she was a victim of sexual abuse/ family violence for quite a few years and the cancerian nature of me totally empathised with her. Got her to finally speak out and approached the police herself through my barrage of attention and sensitivity. She was then worried if i would think differently of her but i insisted that that was her past and that she was a victim and not her fault that those things happened. We continued communicating to each other and she promised to take care of herself for me, be loyal, etc...but gradually as time passes I started to turn insecure and needy even till now. (I know). Only just recently did i start to slap my senses back and decided that i HAD to do something before its too late.

This SPAM conversation below was when i only just started to make an effort to 'back away' a day ago.
To start off, I started to tease/neg at something she did and I made up a story of my colleagues at work.
(Pardon the strange localised English grammar)

[6:40:51 pm] Me: they now fighting where to eat dinner....instead of talking about the project... |-(
[6:41:04 pm] Her: Dear..
[6:41:12 pm] Her: it just simplu shows that
[6:41:17 pm] Her: simply*
[6:41:27 pm] Her: they can't live without food.
[6:42:58 pm] Me: and they ask me to join....
[6:43:13 pm] Her: it just shows that
[6:43:19 pm] Her: they love you so much
[6:43:34 pm] Me: eh....no thanks
[6:43:47 pm] Her: why ehh?
[6:43:48 pm] Me: wait I might get poisoned (puke)
[6:43:54 pm] Her: xDD
[6:43:58 pm] Her: vey good.
[6:44:05 pm] Her: thats for bullying me
[6:44:11 pm] Me: or love drug (inlove)
[6:44:38 pm] Her: ..
[6:44:40 pm] Her: HEYY
[6:45:28 pm] Me: help me dar~
(me trying to imitate her way of talking)
[6:46:07 pm] Her: How to.
[6:46:11 pm] Her: u in china ehh
[6:46:37 pm] Me: omg somemore suggest drinking after
[6:46:46 pm] Me: (phew)
[6:48:40 pm] Me: think i try to make excuse after dinner lol
[6:48:55 pm] Me: going off soon already
[6:48:57 pm] Her: why eh?
[6:49:24 pm] Her: they not ur GOOD AWESOME friends ehh?
[6:49:25 pm] Her: xDD
[6:49:49 pm] Me: excuse to leave lah...all girls eh
[6:50:02 pm] Me: maybe got one other guy joining not sure yet
[6:50:24 pm] Her: wah..all girls ehh
[6:50:33 pm] Her: ....
[6:51:06 pm] Me: yea lah i'm too charming no choice
[6:51:13 pm] Her: hah. charming
[6:51:15 pm] Her: xDD
[6:51:24 pm] Me: have to run wait get taken advantaged by them
[6:51:29 pm] Her: xDD
[6:51:31 pm] Me (chuckle)
[6:51:40 pm] Her: Like they got so desperate like that
[6:53:07 pm] Me: haha well some girls cover it well
[6:53:32 pm] Me: only the exp can tell
[6:53:47 pm] Her: WELL. im the best. I have no interest. not a single bit
[6:53:49 pm] Her: xD
(this was the sentence that shocked and struck me hard and deep because she has never said something so blantantly cold-hearted even if it was a joke. I was tempted to say something similar back in return but thought it will be childish and held back and stayed cool instead)
[6:55:44 pm] Me: oh shall see~
[6:56:08 pm] Her: HAH.
[6:56:18 pm] Her: I have no interest in guys anyway.
(Got thrown a second hit by her but still i held back)
[6:57:06 pm] Me: well i've heard that lots before too
[6:57:59 pm] Her: dear.
[6:58:04 pm] Her: I wan you so much.
[6:58:19 pm] Her: so much when singapore starts snowing.
[6:58:23 pm] Her: :3
(Got thrown a third hit by her but still i held back. By the way, Singapore is a tropical country that never snows)
[7:00:21 pm] Me: want also i need to consider lor...no need wait till snow de... (rofl)
[7:02:21 pm] Her: WEII
[7:02:26 pm] Her: |-(
[7:03:17 pm] Her: dear..
[7:03:21 pm] Her: I going out le..
[7:10:02 pm] Her: ...
[7:10:06 pm] Her: :^)
[7:11:20 pm] Her: later u go home le then msg me ba ~
[7:11:35 pm] Her: enjoy ur dinner wif ur fans xDD
(I ignored and stopped replying since until an hour later)
[8:27:43 pm] Me: Ok~
[8:41:43 pm] Me: You r offline on SPAM? I'm heading home soon.
[8:42:09 pm] Her: I'm talking to my mum about that man..soo angry..><
[8:43:43 pm] Me: Oh then u go on being busy then.
[8:44:09 pm] Her: Hey...awhile more...okayy
[8:45:43 pm] Me: It's ok la take your time..I'm taking the train later
[8:47:09 pm] Her: mhm..i wait for you~ *wink*
(I obviously wasn't pleased already even though she tries to sweet talk and decided to ignore her)
[9:27:09 pm] Her: U reached home already?
[9:29:09 pm] Her: I call u?
(Made her wait 10 mins before replying as i used to respond almost immediately.)
[9:39:22 pm] Me: I call u now?
[9:39:33 pm] Her: okayy

Throughout the conversation, she seemed slightly more eager to talk to me but still was talking/complaining about her usual school/friends/family problems instead of asking about my day. She also seems to give her close circle of friends more attention over me. And also, she seems to be negging/teasing more often than me which i feel is not a good scenario.

Now since i will be back soon with her in person (flying back tomorrow) and I know this is starting to not look well for me but I do want to know if I still stand a chance in making myself the 'prize' in this relationship? And if I have created too much comfort than attraction all this while?

I have so much more details to share here to give a clearer picture of our relationship but let's see what you guys think first?