That.

It's typical for men to want to fix things up or find solutions to problems. Women, on the other hand, just feel (generally speaking). As Neo said (and he's very accurate if that was a guy friend), then there's no hope at all in fixing things up.

But look. The case is different if that was a female friend.

For instance with my ex wife, since I was not the type to discuss things in a dramatic manner, I communicated several times that I wanted a hot meal when I came home from work during my provincial sorties. I always communicated my issue in a very civil manner to 'fix things up'.

What I failed to understand was that the ex-wife was not motivated enough to 'fix things up' because I was too tired to fuck her when I came home at around 10 p.m. after traveling more than 300 kilometers on the road.

The only time the ex-wife tried to seriously and consistently fix things up was when she realized I was already banging several girls since I already wanted out of the relationship. THAT spiced things up. Competition.

Think about it.

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From the messages OP i say you need to make her JEALOUS and see your a guy of HIGH VALUE ASAP. She has lost all attraction for you because you have stopped being interesting, making her chase, and basically reverted back to being lame.

Treat her as if you had just met her. Treat her as if you have 1000000 girl after you. then we will see if shes bored anymore. If she feels she may lose you... that will get her EMOTIONS through the roof

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Hope this is a joke.

Thanks for the replies everyone, there are some interesting ideas here.

I should have clarified, her friend is female.

I tried to bring this up last night, she was over at my house and I was planning on saying that I was having doubts about the relationship and wasn't sure if I wanted to stay with someone so distant. However I opened just by saying "I feel that you've been really distant, especially the last few weeks", and of course she denied everything and told me how I was imagining it. I never got the chance to say the rest because other friends came over and she used that to avoid talking about it for the rest of the night. Anyway...

Regarding jealousy, there's an interesting situation that I might be able to take advantage of. I've been secretly fucking my female housemate for about 8 months. Around July, my girlfriend started to notice us being flirty and got jealous, however I reassured her and by August we had a few threesomes together. Then my girlfriend was disinterested in doing anything like that for a while and we had a few more in December.

But yeah the housemate really likes me yet is cool with me being involved with the both of them. In the end my housemate and I would love to turn things into an open / threeway relationship with my girlfriend, but we're struggling with finding a way to make her interested, especially with the way she's acting now. This is all secret btw. But yeah maybe I can use this somehow?

Another consideration is that my girlfriend and roommate are kinda friends, plus the three of us have planned and booked a week holiday at the beach for mid February (although my girlfriend seems much more interested in the beach than the chance to spend time with us)

Yeah this situation is a bit all over the place, any advice for a plan to make this work is appreciated

plz explain how this is a "joke?". i never said to go cheating... but its obvious OP has lost a TON of value here. Your GF OP is either not interested in your anymore or is my be slightly depressed? (bases on your last comment about the beach)

Haha, all over the place is right.

Could be your gf is out of it due to you cheating on her and the 3some stuff. I feel sorry for her now. Let her find someone she can be happy with. You're stringing her along for your own pleasure.

Holy fuck. Might have mentioned that in your first post, OP.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA I'm laughing so hard I'm crying

Hoo, boy!

I want to point something out here - females are conditioned at a very young age to avoid conflict, especially with males. You probably heard the exact truth about her feelings about you, unless she is the type to keep people thinking that there is something wrong with a relationship in order to avoid jealous friends breaking the two of you up. I'm guessing she's not the type to do the latter, considering her actions towards you.

She's bored. Like, really bored. Like, she stopped giving a shit. Like, she is probably already looking for someone else more exciting.

Mirror her actions to the letter. Stop reaching out to her. Treat her questions with one word answers until she puts in effort. Girls, just like guys, often need a chase to keep it exciting. This also gives her an easy out, if she wants one. No harm, no foul.

Note: I read about the threesomes and the cheating. Hate to say it, but she probably emotionally checked out of the relationship that summer. I doubt it's salvageable after that - even if she didn't know about the cheating.