I dated this girl a few months ago, very short term... It ended really poorly and during the relationship, we always got in fights. I ended up losing a few belongings to it but nothing that wasn't replaceable. (However, I DID make a big deal about it just so my friends I wasn't in the wrong). I got a text message from her the other day, we haven't spoken in months.

It stated, in brief:

"Hey, I'm giving all your stuff to such-a-such person I'm sorry it took so long for me to get this to you. Also I heard you want to date (friend's name) and I want you to know that I'm okay with this as long as it makes you happy . You don't have to reply this if you don't want."

Is this a trap? Like any normal person, I know (including myself) would have tossed that shit out a month after the relationship ended... I even said "toss it out if it is easier for you" She, previously, tried to return my things but made it difficult.

Why the hell would she send me a text message and not just give my shit to our mutual friend? She was even aware that I probably deleted her number as she said "hey it's (blah)."

Also, I'm worried she's just going to go around and sleep with all my friends now. Because I know, I would lose my shit if my ex wanted to sleep with one my friends.

So how to I make the above not happen? I don't think I have any chance with her friend btw. What do you guys make of all this?

She's your ex. Who gives a fuck.

You didn't need her permission to date this other girl anyway. If she's giving it to you then all the better.

I agree. You don't need your girlfriends permission to date her friend. If her friend is down just do it.

Charles hit the gold there:

WHO GIVES A FUCK

Remember she is your ex for a reason.

If you're at all worried that she'll sleep with your friends in retaliation for you sleeping with one of hers, then forget about her friend. Date strangers. This is the best way to avoid complicated, incestuous issues inside your social circle.

You're still pretty emotional about your ex. You need to forget about her as much as you can. The best way to do that is to start dating other girls (who do not know her). And the way you do that is to start meeting a bunch of them. Day game, night game, whatever it takes.

Good luck!

Yeah, date her friend. She shouldn't have any say in it anyways. The only problem is that you may end up seeing your ex more often if you do decide to date her friend, but I think it'll be fine.

Cool! Thanks for the advice, do you guys think if end up with her friend and break up with her, I would have zero chances getting back with the ex?

You're failing to follow the first reply to your post.

Quit concerning yourself with your ex. You broke up, you fought a lot. Fucking forget her. It's none of her business who you date now, and the inverse is also true. You'd flip if she started knocking boots with your friends? Quit being a douchebag. She can fuck or date whoever she wants. Get the fuck on with your life.

So what if she fucks every friend you ever had. It just means every friend you ever had fucked her too. Great friends huh? You still want her back and prob would take her back so you can shout in her face what a cunt she is for sleeping with your mates. Never mind having a go at your fucking mates who know the situation and how upset you feel about her. They shouldn't go near her but yehhh they will. Those great bloody mates of yours who'll fuck her but hey forget them!!! You can give her shit for getting with them in every argument you ever have. How wonderfully controlling for you dude. And btw what possessions did you have at her house that she wants to give away, A toothbrush?