| I have a tough situation here which i would like to add on here and seriously hope for advices.
My LTR of 2 years had been working as a freelance model for 2years whom travels to neighboring country (about 3 hours drive away) and my country. Rotating 1month by 1 month. As a freelance model, she got hit by over 10guys per day minimum. (No Joke)
Recent 3months, Whenever she is at the neighboring country (considered long distance relationship), she tends to be distant. Lesser calls or texts (To the extent of no phone conversation, or even less than several texts per day) and getting drunk almost every night(part of job requirement, no excuse)... In the past, even though when she is overseas. We still have a great deal of contact. Recent 3 months, everything has changed for the worse; yes... many people will say she is already cheating and thinking of cheating.. I believe most guys cannot bare the thought of her gf working overseas and drunk nearly every night..
I do suspect that she maybe seeing someone new in the other country. In addition, I am "not happy" when she works there even though i kept myself busy with my own stuffs. Personally I feel uncomfortable, although I have changed a fair bit to be zero jealous and insecure towards her, underlying my heart, I knew i wasn't happy in the "low intensity" contacts.
Please note i did not smother her with beta behaviors these few months. And i responded to her distant behavior by removing my attention.. And I noticed her behavior getting "Slightly better"
She did mentioned that she would like to quit this modeling job 3months later. We did discussed previously about her not working overseas. She mentioned that we shall discuss about this later this month after her contract end.
Eventually we will have a conversation within a month's time as she is coming to my country tomorrow,
I will ask her to just work locally (The salary is the same here and overseas). If she declines and insist on working at the neighboring country, I will be more sure that she has another dude in the other country and moreover She KNOWs that I am unhappy when she works there. In addition, if she works here, the salary is the same; so why go overseas??
I am thinking of...
Ending the relationship with her and says that this relationship will not work for me if she still intends to work overseas (Even though its just a month, she has worked there many times and she is often "too busy" and sometimes taking one full day just to reply a text) It will be better for us to remain single, and perhaps in the future if she quits modelling, we may be back together.
Am i being too harsh? Burning bridges? Consulted many friends, they say I am pretty sure on what i want from her.
Or shall i not break up with her and spin more plates when she is overseas? Only to wait for her to "have enough" of working as a model overseas.
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