swagman....

I did start to think this. However, the last four days have changed a lot. I only reply when she messages me now, which is every day.

She has messaged me pretty much every day saying she misses me, she also wanted to travel miles to come and see me, she's messaged some really sweet things.

Then we were talking dirty, and she messaged me some naughty pics, and saying how much she wants me etc... and then said she is really looking forward to being with me in january and talks as though we are going to do loads in the future, and that shes not going to be my fuck buddy ....

so i said, fine, friends with benefits... and she said no not that either. She seems really against fuck buddies etc... and she said she doesnt want to lose me. I've said nothing back emotional.

I think she is under the impression that i may be using her, and she brought up that shes only slept with 2 guys and said to me "you know about them, iv told you everything iv done, i really want you and no1 else"

She is really sweet, comes from a good family, close to them, and I think maybe the ONS was just getting over her first. I am being careful, but SPAM seems as tho i have 80% power. At the time of the ONS as well I got with other girls, and i think she probs knew it, it does seem as though she has alot of feelings for me SPAM. She texts me 3:1 i would say.

Dude, she's telling you about all the guys she's doing stuff with right now! The movie theater incident is ringing out to me like a tornado siren. She may be saying that you are the most important thing right now, but how can you possibly believe that after all that she has been telling you that she's been doing recently

What I'm especially concerned about right now is the fact that you are working extremely hard right now to convince yourself that this is the right direction to be heading in. You're trying to pick up every positive and sliver of hope you can to show to yourself that the negatives are insignificant and that you need to go after her. You are even going down to the point where you are criticizing the very actions that you commit. This is NOT the pua way.

If you really want to go after her, then so be it. Just be careful about how things go. I certainly would not trust her

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Swagman, i think there may have been a bit of miscommunication.

i'm pretty sure she is only talking to me SPAM and she messages me all day every day, those other guys were in the passed. One lives hours a way and was in town for the night, and the other one is just some guy who she has moved on from.

It does seem as though she is starting to be quite attached to me. Also the first guy she slept with lives where our college is, so she could go see him when ever, but shes going back 4 days early and keeps going on about how we can spend 4 days together, which im not planning on doing as i have too much work, but she can come over in the evening.

I have thought a little about it, and i have no desire for a LTR,so can't see myself getting hurt. Hopefully that mentality will keep me strong making her more attracted to me.

Tonight I was talking to my friend (girl), and told her she messages me asking if iv ever thought about seeing her. Think it's a shit test, but just said, dont think so. and moved the conversation on.

I'm 99% sure she wants me as a bf tbh. She loves me. Not sure if its too much for me SPAM though, but SPAM i think shes sweet. Will see when we get back to college i guess. But as i said, i dont think i will see anything long term out of it as i got other things i wanna do after college (finishes in 6 months).

Read the thread. Confused. What's the problem?

There doesnt seem to be much of a problem now tbh, just more that shes in love with me and seems to really want me as her boy friend. Just going to see how it goes, like i said, not too fussed about anything LT. Thanks man