Me and my girlfriend have been together 3 years. I cheated on her with my ex and she found out a year ago. Since then I lost all my power in the relationship. I became less attractive to her as a result and she became less loving. I was suddenly doing stuff to appease her. Sex died from daily to once every 2-3 weeks. A few days ago she found a 2 year old email I sent to my ex. It said I'm gonna come to her place. She got mad because in her mind it made it more of a "plot" rather than it just happened. She started saying I still probably cheat on her, which I don't. And she said I lied about the way the scenario happened, which I didn't. She also said she hates me and doesn't want to remember her significant other doing these things. She broke up with me and I cried and begged. She said she'll stay with me for 3 months so I can get my shit together and not be devastated by her leaving. She spent the next two days breaking up with me constantly and kept going back to the three month idea. The tipping point happened when she brought up breaking up and I said "ok, let's break up." At that point she said "seriously?" With a huge change in voice and started crying. I said "no, forget it we can do the three months thing." Immediately after her sister showed up and we told her the story. She took my side and said that she believes I've changed and it's stupid to break up if she already forgave me a year ago and she believes I don't lie/cheat now. My girlfriend was really cold still, no displays of affection until this point. But later that night we had really good sex and she was more into it than she has been in months. I'm not sure if remembering my past attracted her more or maybe my calm demeanor to her leaving.. Or maybe she was just horny. After the sex, she's been more affectionate. "I love you's" have returned. She's starting to call a little now, once a day. She brought up marriage and children too. Once she brought up that she's mad at me still and wants to leave, and I just said "I understand, it's ok" and she didn't leave. Conversely when it has just happened, I would panic and she'd leave. I'm too inexperienced to truly understand what's going on here but she's a great girl, I'd love some advice on how to save this from imminent doom .

basically you have to

1. earn her trust again, this is the hardest thing, this involves talking to her more, seeing her more often, and touching her more often, the reason it's hard is because she might diss your approaches to talk more, and most guys would stop right there and give up, but don't give up if you truly want her, the other thing guys do wrong is touch, i do not mean touching her in sexual ways, i mean things like more hugs,holding her hand more, cuddling without sex, etc

2. be more romantic, most girls nowadays claim they don't want a cheesy romantic, BUT WE ALL KNOW GIRLS WANT WHAT THEY SAY THEY DON'T, do small things, like kiss her on her forehead, kiss her hand, make cute jokes, send her ONE rose randomly and just speak how you feel whenever you can, let her know how much you love her....now if that works then you can move on to the big stuff, these is random events that shouldn't happen to often, such as unexpected gifts, unexpected dates, love poems, showing up randomly just to give her a hug or a kiss, etc

3. go back to the old you, doing all this stuff might make you come off as fake because you're thinking its a guideline, but just as any PUA knows is that advice and lines WILL not work if you don't do them with the heart...meaning if you say it like a robot you will most likely get dissed, BUT if you say it like you truly mean it or do it liek you truly mean it then it''ll work.....also do the things you use to do before all this happened, all she basically wants is for you all to go back to how yall were, if she didn't then she wouldn't stay with you.

4. care about her. im just throwing this one out here because i don't know what race you are, but i know in the black community girls usually fuck around and mess with their exes while they talk to a new guy and whenever that ex makes her mad she goes to the new guy, the reason im telling you this is because you have to try not to make her mad, its common sense but every time you make her mad you loose her more and more, care about what she has to say and what she do and FIGHT FOR HER

5. have faith, if you're religious then have faith in God that this will work out, if you're not religious then have faith in her that she'll forgive you and love you like she use to...it might sound cheesy but having a little faith motivates you



i don't know if this helps but this is what i did. and it worked for me.

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie