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I have been dating her for about two months now.
I am attracted to her and I believe she is attracted to me as well.
She is reluctant to move forward in the relationship because she is divorcing her husband and is afraid of repercussion if she is found in a relationship before the papers are filed.
I pledged to keep a low profile while at the same time gently but overtly pushing for a more physical relationship.
I have feelings for her (not one-itis but I do care) and I told her that I am willing to hold off on the 'more physical' part until she feels comfortable (but not indefinitely) and while I am dating her I will be dating her only.
After she cancelled a couple of dates (she told me today she was sick for the past few days) she texted me that "we should probably talk at some point" and suggested a phone call tomorrow but agreed to a lunch instead, far from my place (where we usually go after the lunch/dinner etc.).
I am afraid the Talk will be of the LJBF kind, but I may be wrong.
If that's the case I am not sure if it's because:
- I pushed (what part of 'not ready' do I not understand?)
- I did not push enough (disappointed? was it all a big ASD shield?)
- She does not trust my pledge and she is afraid that while I am dating her I will continue to chase other women (her husband was unfaithful and that's why she is divorcing to begin with)
- She does not believe I have feelings for her and is afraid that once we have real sex, I will carve another notch on my colt and move to the next prey.
- She thinks this is just a "rebound relationship" for me (for both?) as we both are recently separated and that's not our first relationship after the separations and she is afraid to get too attached.
If it's indeed the LJBF talk, how do I respond (given I have feelings and I think she does too and I am not willing to give up yet)?
If it's not the LJBF talk, how do I thread this fine line moving forward?
Any advice is really, really appreciated!
Thanks
Ankh
I didn't read it all OP but your way to available, you have to have more of a life besides this woman. This chicks "problems" are bs if she really wanted to hang with you, she would I think you always being available and coming off needy lowered your value in her eyes