Talked gf into letting me take some digital pictures of her blowing me. Promised I would never share them, which is true.

Next day, after she leaves, I discover that she covertly deleted the photos, probably while I was sleeping.

I’m instantly furious. Feels like a major breach of trust. Don’t know whether she figured I wouldn’t notice, or that risking my fury was worth it.

Is this as bad as my instincts tell me? Should she have retroactive ‘veto power’ over pics? (Hypothetically, if a girl is honest and asks me to delete past pics, should I agree? And technically they were on a camera she owns but leaves at my place; should I care about that.)

And how should I handle this? My instincts says:

- Let myself cool off before I do anything
- Go dark for a few days, when she pings for another meetup, I’ll unenthusiastically let her come over for a booty call
- Take more BJ pictures; if she objects, I explain, calmly, that for me to be able to trust her again she needs to make up for this, and if I can’t trust her she can’t be in my life. I remain calm, but with the air that I am serious and could get furious / kick her out if she doesn’t go along. Should I start off with a mocking-sarcastic "oh weirdest thing, they disappeared, but I know you wouldn't do that, so we'll just take some more?" (i.e. she knows I know what she did, but this is my way of saying she can make it up to me) or "you've been a bad girl, I'm sure it was just momentary bad judgment and you wouldn't usually go behind my back, you need to make it up to me?" (treat her like a naughty child, act stern but like I don't take her seriously and she can't make me truly angry)
- Mentally, demote her importance in my life since she can’t be trusted. Maybe tell her that she can’t sleep over anymore b/c I can’t trust her at my place while I sleep.

Lol its HER camera. Relax

Jesus christ dude, so what? What if her Mother says "Hey, let me look through your holiday snaps!" and then sees them, I'm not surprised she deleted them. She wanted to let you take pics to satisfy you, but most self respecting girls don't want to end up on some revenge porn website after they break up with their bf.

dude she just freaked out a little and destroyed the evidence. dont blame her or make any issue of it just play like nothing happened.
meanwhile id recommend handing her the camera and let her take all the pics, once she comfortable with the idea u should be back in the saddle

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Considering you get 'instantly furious' when your girlfriend deletes pictures on her own camera, I'm not surprised she doesn't trust you with them. You're exactly the kind of guy to post that shit online if she dares do anything your psychopathic, controlling ass doesn't like. No one wants someone like you to have power or leverage over them.