Long time since I posted here fellas...great to be back!! (long read)

So heres the story. Met an amazing HB8 at uni a few months ago and we just hit it off. I didnt even need to turn my game mode on, we just kinda clicked (sounds cliched but bare with me here guys). On the 2nd week I k closed and everything has been smooth sailing.

Now for a background on her (which I feel is necessary). Shes a virgin, had one serious relationship before that lasted 3 years, and I was the 2nd guy shes ever kissed. Shes not your average girl either, doesnt play games, fantastic wife material, smart funny bla bla bla. Basically, shes the whole nine yards.

We've talked about getting married (yes, it is that serious between us and Id apprecaite if I didnt get any "too early for that" talk) and we are dead set on it. Im most likely leaving the country soon in order to pursue my studies abraod and shes completely fine with that, telling me sh will talk to me everyday and support me and cant wait for me to come back so we can start a family together. This makes me really happy, as she is the first girl I truly have feelings for (and Im a cold bastard so yea )

Now heres the problem. Shes still a child. Her personality is really bubbly but shes socially retarded. She had a strict upbringing meaning shes religious and all that, was locked up for her whole life basically. This I believe has impacted her emotions. Shes veryyyy needy, sometimes making me dislike her temporarily. This I can handle.

However, something that drives me insane is her mood swings. These make me wanna rip the hair off my head. Literally. I want to fucking claw my face and gouge my eyes out when she does this. Ok...you get the idea

She'll be acting all loving and caring one second, then SUDDENLY does the polar opposite and pouts and acts all upset. I ask her whats wrong (a fellow PUA told me to stop as this leads to beta behavior) and she says nothing until I force her to say it (also very bad I know) and she says the silliest of reasons!!!!

"I feel Im not good enough for you"
"You have no idea how much I love you"
"You deserve better than me"
"You have all these women you can get but you chose me"

These mood swings are bloody killing me. Now, I dont wanna break up with her over something as silly as all this. but its a big issue for me if she continues doing this shit. She has massive self esteem issues (as you can clearly see) yet she has all these orbiters she refers to as "slaves". However, shes a good person at heart.

So to sum up my Ulysses here...a quick summary for those confused by my train of thoughts (sorry)

-She acts a bit *too* needy
-She has massive self esteem issues
-She tries and acts all independent and like she can handle it, but she admitted she can never leave me (partly due to the fact we have foreplayed like crazyy, and shes a Christian girl so that means marriage automatically (yea I come from a fucked up society )
-Her mood swings are like knives that are poking at me non stop

So the million dollar question ehre is how do I stop her doing all these childish acts? She promises me (and shes honest I can assure you) that she isnt playing games like "other girls do", but hey, who knows right?

Thanks for putting up with me fellas.

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Good things come to those who wait. Greater things come to those who get off their ass and do anything to make it happen

Dump her, mate.
And read these articles
http://www.primals.org/articles/hannig03.html#char
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Thanks for the reply fugs

I read both links you sent me. Its a bit too extreme labeling her as having a personality disorder, or even being manipulative. I said that I want to marry this girl...cant be just dumping her

Its just...she gets upset over the dumbest of things. Like for example I showed a little pre selection the other day and she flipped out. She knows Im in high demand so maybe theres a little jealousy going on (although there shouldnt be tbh)

Thats what pisses me off...she gets upset over something silly and flips her mood around (lasts max 6 hours) That about sums it up in a nutshell.

What can I do?

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Good things come to those who wait. Greater things come to those who get off their ass and do anything to make it happen

Let me sum it up. You met a few months ago, didn't have sex with her and you want to marry her even though she's a nutter...
Thing is, with volatile creatures like your gf, things are not getting better, but worse. And mind you, this is just the beginning. Iv'e been there with someone like your gf. Had the brains to dump her, wasn't easy, but I know I've dodged a bullet even though it didn't seem so in the moment.
I repeat: dump her and don't look back. A lot of better girls out there if you're up for it.

To this point Im pretty relaxed about the situation. If I was to ultimately end it, I would quite heartbroken but could pick myself straight away and go back to some old school gaming. Dat inner game

Anyways, was thinking maybe point out her problems to her face to face. Give her an ultimatum of sorts... dont ever have your wild mood swings at me, or its over.

I just respect myself so much not to put up with anybodys bullshit. Sure I love the girl and would do almost anything for her, but being driven to insanity is certainly not one of them.

Unsurprisingly enough, these mood swings happen during her menstrual cycle, but I shouldnt be using that as an excuse (and neither should she).

Reckon an ultimatum is in order...keep doing that shit and youre gone.

PS We foreplay alot and have basically done everything except vaginal sex (big stigma where we are from) but i make her cum plenty, and shes still all new to this (even cried on some occassions). Maybe its a sexual thing shes coping with? I doubt its guilt...shes hornier than I am

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Good things come to those who wait. Greater things come to those who get off their ass and do anything to make it happen

Don't give her an ultimatum. An ultimatum is basically a declaration of powerlessness. It tells her that you're running out of options and can't really handle the situation. If you want to go ahead with this girl, just withdraw attention when she flips and soft next her. If I were you, I'd just dump her. A clingy low self esteem chick will hinder your progress.

Definitely, I'm surprised you haven't already done it. While an ultimatum is usually not a good idea, in this case you can state that you are not willing to accept her mood swings and that she has to work on that aspect.

Sit her down for a proper talk when you both have enough time. If she has low self esteem, you have to carefully chose your words. Start with all the positive things about her, how amazingly she cares, how strong and independent she can be (that'll will want her to work on that aspect even more) and so on.
When it comes to describing your issue, don't generalize too much, give her clear examples where she lost it. It's likely she will think she is a failure if you just say stuff like "I don't like your mood swings and you need to change otherwise I'm gone"

Trust me fugs is right I went through the same thing with my ex I would see her a lot but she lived in mexico and would tell me the same thing, She didn't feel like she was enough, She thought I deserved better, Always wondered if I got hit on over here, trust me this girl is going to give you the emotional ride of your life, youll eventually end up exploding on her and youll both cause the relationship to fail. I honestly think you shouldn't get too attached to her let her sort out her problems if you really love her be there for her but as a friend if she truly loves you she will work on her problems to be with you just have patience on her but in the end if it doesn't work out don't let it get you down, the relationship didnt work because of her problems not you. Also find out more about her how it was like for her growing up why her last relationship didn't work out talk with her friends of hers that will actually give you good and valuable information on the person your dating. DONT EVER want to marry someone with such a short time of getting to know them even if they seem PERFECT! Find her faults.

And she has to find time to fix her problems otherwise shell end up making you miserable as well.