I know you guys don't know me personally so I'll try to explain the situation.
We dated for 10 months, I always felt like she was the right one and we were doing great. About 8 months in, i started to have problems in my life, like being depressed, not knowing what to do as a career, getting sick of my current career path, and even to the point of not knowing if life was worth living. This devastated her obviously, more fights between us began and we hurt each other emotionally through our fights and arguments.

One day she told me that she is unsure if she truly does love me or not. In our relationship, we never used the words 'I love you' very often. I was unsure what to do and just continued on. Weeks went by when we had a really bad fight. She suddenly said that she doesn't want to date anymore and she wants to take a 3 month break from our relationship. I was really shocked when I heard that.

I blamed myself for not being strong in my struggles with life and not treating her right, but I also blame her for not being there for me when I was going through hard times in my life. So far 1.5 months has passed and 1.5 months of this break is left. Ive tried to not be clingy and keep talking to her so I stopped starting texts with her. I would let her start texting conversations only and I never asked her out. She would text me about once a week and ask If i want to go out for a dinner and a walk or just hangout. I met up with her about once a week.

She said she is happy to be single and feels free. I asked her if she thinks we will get back together, she said no. I asked her if she wanted to. She paused for a while and said she doesn't know. She also mentioned that if we were to get back together after 3 months, she might want another year off just to see what im truly like and get to know me more. but then lets say we do take a year off and we see each other like twice a month, how much am I going to get to know her from that? afterall i've dated her for almost a year..She also told me that she sees me in the same way as her other male friends and that she has no romantic feelings for me.

Yesterday we walked around a mall, she wanted to buy a few articles of clothing so we spent the day together. At night we watched a movie at my house. I moved closer to her until we were touching, i tried to hold hands with her but she said no and moved further away. later on she said she feels uncomfortable when im close like that. I didn't apologize for doing it but i just simply shrugged it off. I thought if I apologized, she would see me even more as a friend as I read in RSD. I told her I was still confident in our relationship. I told her I was ready to start dating. At first she said she didn't think i was and changed her mind. She said she still has some painful memories of us and she's not ready to date. I know she struggles with letting the past memories go. She has forgiven but not forgotten and i guess the past still hurts her. One thing she did mention was that if we started dating, how does she know I wont turn into a bad person, hot tempered, hurtful and depressed like before? I said she will just have to wait and see for herself. I do admit to being really hot tempered and really hurtful in the past. I have changed over the year of knowing her, but i cant change my personality overnight. I know im a much better, more mature person now, but I still have a ways to go into being an amazing person.

As for now, I don't know what I should do. She clearly needs more space. She may or may not ask to hangout this weekend. What should I do? any advice? When she texts me, should I tell her that I think she needs space/time and to take another week off without seeing me? Should I tell her that im not interested in being her friend? or even decline to hangout this week? Should I just go out with her when she asks and not be touchy like last night? How can I get out of this friendzone? I really dont think she is the jealous type of person. I know you might think that I should go for someone else and then she will come back to me.. but i feel like if i were to do this, then she would just let me go and forget me. It's even hard for me to see other girls right now because im so set on this one girl...

I feel really lost. I always wonder if she will come back or not but i feel like the chances are leaning more torward her not coming back. Any advice would be amazing, guys.

There is no way she is going to get back with you. You already know what you should be doing. You should move on and forget about her, find some hobbies, start going to gym again, go out more, and try to date and pick up other women. If you do a good job in rebuilding an amazing life again, then you might make enough of an impression on her to get her to want to get back with you. But remember, you are doing this for YOU, not for her, because even if you do everything right, she might not get back with you, but this is your best chance, get a life again. And one more thing, dont argue with her, or try to logically explain to her why she should get back with you, that never ever works, there is no place for logic here. Best of luck.

Stop asking her if you will ever get back together. Stop hanging out with her just as friends. Stop trying to push a new relationship with her. Just stop everything your doing and find a new girl, do you really want to wait around for a year? Just to see her with another dude? If you wait around for her this is exactly what is going to happen. I know by now its cliche but go find more women, she sees this and gets jealous or she sees this and doesn't care. Either way you have a new girl and know where you stand with the old one.

She says she doesn't want to date, wants to be free and single i.e. wants other cock and she still strings you along knowing full well that you want to be together. She doesn't sound like the nicest or most mature person in the world. Don't sit there and take it.

Don't settle for less than what you want. You want more than friendship so this situation is just going to fuck you up emotionally and prevent you from meeting women who are better than her, because trust me, there are better out there. Next her, hard if you must. Either disappear or tell her straight up that you don't want to be friends and you've had enough of this situation and that she isn't to contact you anymore.

I mean, how much self respect have you got?

I too am in the same position. But i was more needy than you. I used stupid LOGIC to try and save me. It obviously blew off.. I had to see her everyday for 9 hours because of my work.. I couldnt stand not being with her. Right now she knows she hates but she doesnt know why.. I dont know what to do.. I know seeing other girls will seem as "not the right solution" to this problem.. But it is.. Are you from India?

Let me tell you this.

What you are doing right now, with all honesty, is nothing but hurting yourself. You will develop more feelings if you keep acting like this, and you will end up being so damn depressed and lifeless if you ever get to see her talking to another guy. Right now, there is no way in hell you can bring her back overnight. You both need time-off so you can think about what's going on.

Try going out more often, even if it meant going out with your guy friends. Talk to girls, even if it meant talking to them on a friend-zone level, just do it, it'll make you feel better. Try to do new things in your life. It doesn't have to be the gym, but people suggest it the most because it releases stress, good for your health and improves your physical appearance all at ONCE. Just do something new and work on yourself. By the time she sees you improving, she'll come back, and I'm 80% sure about it.

Asking her questions and explaining to her things now is just plain useless man. You'll just lower your standards while increasing hers, and she'll start losing attraction. COOL OFF. Take a break immediately and take your mind off it. The first few days are going to be the toughest, but you'll laugh later on when you see her texting you back.

Girls are a 100 times much more emotional than guys, don't ever think she got over you that fast. It just takes time to show.