Hey all. I’ll try to keep this as succinct as possible.

I was seeing this girl for a few weeks until about a month ago. We would chill at hers most of the time. She ‘broke up’ with me (we weren’t official) because she felt that we weren’t right for each other. I put this down to two things; my not being sexual enough (we spent numerous times in bed together and I just didn’t escalate beyond kissing) and a loss of value and attraction, based on me putting most of the effort into seeing her.

When she broke with me, I did all the ‘right’ things; I acted unfazed and agreed with her reasons. Obviously I immediately went no contact.

3 weeks after it ended, and a week ago from now, she texted me. I ignored the message. I then texted her a few days ago when she was out, resulting in a number of drunk texts professing a desire to see me and a missed call too.

She texted me again today, asking me to go chill and ‘catch up’ at hers later. I told her I was busy this weekend but could see her Sunday night, where we agreed to watch a film together.

Where am I at with this girl? When we ‘broke up’ she expressed a want to still chill as friends, which I of course shut down. Does she really just want to hang as friends or do I have a chance to pull it back here? How do I go about this?

Thanks guys.

Just go and fuck her!... Hard!

Then she will either see you as fuck buddies or become attracted to you again

Win win situation

Get off here and go see her to find out. Sounds like she genuinely misses you, but that does not mean instant relationship.

IN FACT, I'd use this opportunity to re-negotiate a new, healthy rel with her on more amicable terms seeing as you're in the power position (she's coming to you).