Ok, so i'm about to enter in a relationship with this one girl, everything goes perfect, until suddenly she tells a friend we have in common, that she isn't sure if i'm going to stick around or get bored of her, so she doesn't knows if it's okay to start a relationship, but she wants it. I made a mistake, because I delibaretaley showed her constantly that I was very indifferent and I even told her I wasn't going to be good for her in a lot of ocations. Since I see her almost always, I have plenty of chances to show her that indeed I can stick around and indeed I can fall in love and not just play with chicks.

But guys, how do you believe is the best way to show her? Spending more time with her, get her a little access to more of my resources? What? I'm in that dilema. Help is appreciated, your time is beholden.

How long have you two been seeing each other?

From what you've shared it sounds like she's not going anywhere. Although the way you've staged this relationship she's right not to want to move forward. To me, it seems the sensible move to make would be to drop the talk of leaving/being bad for her. Just be patient with her. Don't rush a relationship. But hint to the desire to be with her. Start putting the thought that you want to be with her into her head. You've already put into her head that you are a flight risk and she's still there. That tells me she's not lost.

Just stop telling her you're bad news. :smacks forehead:

We've been seeing each other like for 5-6 months now.

To drop the 'bad for you' talk seems like a really good place to start. I will take that one. I guess I have to be slightly more considered with her huh? Thanks, appreciate it!

Wow, wouldn't have guessed that long. Surprised if she feels that way, that she is still around.

I have to ask. Why have you been telling her you don't think you're good for her or that you don't think you'll stick around? Seems backwards as hell to do so past a few weeks. I mean, sure at first it's fun to joke around and put it in their head that you could walk away anytime. But I usually know if I am going to actively pursue a woman after the first month. At which point I would not keep telling her I'm bad news or that I'm probably not going to stick around.

Where's your train of thought here?

Well, you're very right, usually too I do that as a joke, like at the beginning when everything's just at a early point, it just makes her wonder why. But with this girl was because we were just friends for a time, because she had a boy, I had a girl, even though not boyfriend or girlfriend. When they both were gone for us, which was about at the same time, she first, me then, in that order. She started flirting me, like she usually did when she had that guy but I was just like "It's not going to happen" and I kept framing that, in different ways, with indifference, saying it, not caring about her, in a lot of ways. That was I would say for about 3-4 months of her chasing me, after that, I started to notice she was really sensible, I spent some amazing times with her, she was funny as fuck and I just loved it. I'm have a group of 6 best girlfriends which are also her bestfriends, so I knew that if get with her I would had to have a relationship, she won't accept being 'friends with benefits' or anything else, so I was very confused about that situation, and even there was a time when they all reunited asked me if I really liked her or if was I going to play (I have kinda of a fame for playing with chicks and leaving them just like that) I didn't know what to say, for one part I really like this girl, but for other, they would cut my nuts if I did something to her, and they're my 6 best friends since long ago, I won't lose them. After those 4 months of her chasing me, she stopped, not because of other guy but because I told her I had some girls, and I wouldn't be good for her because I wouldn't pay attention to her more than to the others. So she finally stopped looking for me, talking me, and even making eye contact everytime we saw each other, but she did it like she genuinely gave a fuck about me. So I noticed I missed her, I guess that why I realized I like her. Like a month and a half ago, I'm with this girl, right, not wanting but wanting her, if it makes sense for you, and I think that dilema finally finished, because I figured I like her. So that's kind of the story, pretty horrific huh?

Sounds like she got bored with your games. Remember this is a cat and mouse game.... sometimes you have to actually catch the mouse. Bat at it as you please but at some point you need to pounce.

I take a similar approach as you did but for shorter time periods if Im looking for her to be in a LTR. Im upfront how Im having too much fun for a GF but thats what Im looking for. I say Im holding out for that one in a million woman but she can apply if she wants to. I explain that a woman would have to be a "very good girl" to get that position in my life.

The difference is that you lead her to believe there is no hope. I lead one to believe that she has to work hard to become my LTR GF.

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