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Gained some valuable insight today. Dynamic is very history focused 'he said/she said'. Quite entrenched however with effort we can def move past this old debilitating habit. One of the key issues was the lack of space we afforded each other (seeing each other for extended periods of time daily), more specifically the lack in respecting each other's boundaries. Powerful realization, though it'll take a great deal of work to overcome. Def doable. As per the friend, i didn't sanitize or edit anything.
The GF was more than willing to patch things up, however my friend was resistant and would only meet with her on condition that she can grill her on how negatively she perceives her - not exactly conducive to moving forward. That's why I pulled myself out of an untenable situation. The only diff now is that said friend is now willing to come to the plate and deal with things more maturely.
Dude, you deleted the post. You can't edit something any more than by deleting it. Who writes something about a situation, then deletes it, then changes it completely when called on it? Story was your gf was the one who told your friend she was in denial about liking you, then she broke up with you because you were in denial. Either the first story was made up, or this new take on it is made up. With the actions of your gf in your original post and the fact that you deleted the post where she broke up with you, it's obvious you were ashamed by the post, hence deleted it.
Anyways, as I said it's not my business and if you want to hide facts and spin the truth then shit really is toxic. That's like the battered wife who tells herself she really did slip and fall into her boyfriend's fist. But hey, that's your choice to stay with a girl who treats you like crap and write it off as passive aggressive.
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The next morning she'd sent me a long text apologizing for her behavior, however at some level blaming me by saying my insistence to talk about her rejecting my wanting to hold hands made her angrier and angrier (which is understandable, in hindsight of course).
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Needless to say I apologized just to burry the issue. Moments later she seemed her normal self. I drop her off, she kisses me gnite and says "see you tomorrow".
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This set her off, understandably. The short of it is she insisted on working out by herself, however at the end of the workout she texts me that she wants to hangout w me at my place and watch a movie. While I was reluctant to give a "yes" or "no" at that moment, I felt good that it seemed like she warmed up and wanted to connect again.
So she gets mad and you submit to make her happy. You must constantly be in fear of setting her off. She tells you what to do, gets you to leave your friends and gets mad at you later on. This is known as an ABUSIVE relationship. Heck, she dumped you because a friend liked you. Listen to chtown and vhoul. Because I won't be surprised if she has or will start to hit you and I mean that genuinely. And no, you're not leaving her no matter what.
Your logic is a bit convoluted and twisted. I don't really care enough to contest what you've already convinced yourself of. Not worth my energy. Take that as 'confirmation' of your belief, no sweat off my back.
CHAT