| I put my head to the task of learning pick-up/communication techniques last spring because I was going for an internship in Manhattan as a medical student for 6 weeks. I figured since I would be alone, and had to meet people, I might as well focus on all my goals at once.
Somehow I completely overshot and created a big(?) problem for myself. I'm 5'7'' and maybe a 7 overall. On the first day there were 7 med students, 6 guys from other schools and one very attractive blonde who was from the local school. The other guys hit on her, I ignored her, and set myself up as the quote-unquote "leader" of the distracted group. That night I got her number, she came over for some advice on the rotation... and after ignoring/teasing her for three days she suggested a date, and things advanced very quickly that night and beyond. She offered to let me stay with her in her suite for 3 weeks, which I did (rent-free in Manhattan? I'm in.).
So, before I start talking crazy, I have to sum up: Medical student in prestigious New York school, from California, unbelievably intelligent (she missed 1 question on the SAT and took a full scholarship to MIT), she is 1 year younger, beautiful with a perfect body, absolutely not stubborn or abrasive/bitchy yet still wants to go into general surgery. (She actually preferred when I was in charge, which was quite a change from most girl med students.) And to top it all off, she is into girls, incredibly enthusiastic in bed but relatively inexperienced (very conservative parents), and when I took her out she always turned heads and seem completely oblivious/indifferent to the attention she was getting. And then there was the whole clicking-on-every-level-every-day thing. She is crazy over me.
(Oh, I dug for some issues to explain how that could happen, 2 weeks ago she had dumped an unexciting and subtly manipulative surgeon boyfriend she had dated for three years, and so my knowledge [pua very much included] and creativity were enough to wow her inappropriately low expectations. There were no red flags no matter where I looked.)
So, let's see: intelligent surgeon + MIT graduate + blonde "trophy wife" looks + kinky + loyal + socially fun + feminine + family connections + completely compatible personality + wants kids = Oops I'm in love with her. And Oops I had to fly back to the midwest.
This girl completely outclasses every other girl I've dated in every possible way. I would be a fool to drop it because of distance. Unfortunately that distance is 1000 miles.
Is there any precedent for that to actually work? Or am I being delusional? We spent 6 weeks together and can't move back together for 9 months. Until then we could see each other ~7 times. If we can keep this going, there is no doubt I would propose next summer.
The second question is, the PUA process, if I can call it that, had been significantly improving my social skills across the board. Now that has stopped. I need to maximize these skills before my critical interviews that determine what kind of surgeon I can become. Are there any "schools" of PUA that can be followed with sex being out of the picture? We 'negotiated' liberal terms on both our parts so there's not cheating unless it gets sexual. (I can't decide if more freedom is important or not in keeping a LDR. I just know guilt is a killer.)
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