Hi there,

I apologize in advance if this post is a bit long, but there are details that might be important.

Let me start by stating, that I assume the thing with this chick is dead ! But you be the judge of that.

So I met this girl a couple of years back. Fucking gorgeous ! But she was unavailable at the time. I traveled for a bit and whilst I was doing so she was dating one of my mates. He got tired of her though and dumped her (something I don't think she has quite gotten over completely).

When I returned from my travels we started talking. We were never friends before, but we were at some parties once in a while. There were clear flirtatiousness from her part, but we never did anything. 1 months ago she sent me a text, complaining why I never wrote her. I set up a "date" next saturday and thought, then I would be able to tell if there was something or not. Initially nothing happened, we just had fun and she spend the night. The morning after we started cuddling, holdings hands, neck kissing etc., but when I went for the kiss she pulled away because it was too wrong/weird (due to her dating my friend earlier (he doesn't care about this btw.)).

Either way, she kept messaging me and flirting. We set up a new date next sunday. She stood me up and I gave her the non-reactive "all cool, I'm tired anyway" response. A few days later, she came back and said she wanted to see me soon. We set up a date the following saturday (now 2 weeks ago). We went to the movies, then for drinks and then my place for some red wine. We had a good talks, both fun but also deep and serious. When we laid in bed it was the same as earlier. Just cuddling. So I asked her about it and she finally kinda opened up about the whole situation, and that it was difficult because she still had something for my friend, even though it was all a while back. I told her I thought it was frustrating that he had so much control here, but there was no pressure from my side. We went to sleep, but woke up later in the night and she finally turned around and we started kissing. She honestly seemed relieved. Next morning we continued and I fingered her for a bit too. She left and I kissed her goodbye. We texted a bit during the evening and next morning (I initiated these 2).

Next week I didn't want to be the clingy desperate boy, so I waited until Thursday, but still no reply, so I got kinda frustrated. I wrote her a statement: "Did you know that blue whales' tongues weighs more than elephant? I love National Geographic!". I almost got in instant reply that she laughing all by herself at a train station. I took the liberty of calling her up and we had a super nice chat. She told me she'd been super busy at work and would be until next Thursday (yesterday), because they were opening a new shop. So we set up a date for Saturday (tomorrow). We talked about the weekend before as well. I was quite busy but she told me to come by a mutual friend's birthday if I had time. I ended up having time, after a long day with my class. We went out and she went home with me on her own initiative. Good evening, no drama, but no more than kisses.

She left the next morning. I've been texting with her sparingly early this week, but it seemed quite generic. And yet she knocked on my window on Tuesday cause she walked by with a friend. We chatted for about 5 minutes, all in good SPAM and smiles.

Now, here's what I don't get. Yesterday evening i texted her at around 8PM: "Hey, I need some help ! I got a date with this cute girl on Saturday. I was thinking of taking her to this Japanese fusion restaurant. What do you think?". And I haven't heard a word since ! I saw her online today on Facebook, so I send her an emoticon. She saw it but no reply. So clearly she has lost interest. Even though she's been busy, I've been initiating almost all contact the last 2 weeks, although it was her initiate to go with me home Saturday and knock on my window Tuesday ! And even though I've texted first, she has always replied and always been used smileys, questions and been generally flirtatious, so I've excused it with her business. My question is.. Why ? Or is there even an explanation?

Right now I'm torn between texting her straight up, "what's up "Name"?!" Or just not writing at all. I'm not sure I will accomplish anything with either, but what would you guys do ?

Just a final note. I'm not a "player", but I',m by no means an AFC either, even though my mindset has been that of an AFC recently (albeit not showing this of course).