So I have the following problem.

During sex my GF wasn't horny anymore, she says she feels like we're in a rut.

During a talk it all came on two points:

1. She can turn me on easily while I don't turn her on so much (her words). This is ofcourse pretty shitty to hear from your GF and I hope I can overcome it.

2. I am more focused on sex and have contributed the most to our sex live by introducing dirty talk, different positions, themes etc. though lately we're in a rut and I don't know where to look for something new, I feel she can also contribute something by being more actively involved. In the past when we came upon this subject she said I have to wait and she's not ready (She's young).

We both want to have an amazing relationship and sex-life.

So I was hoping someone here happens to be an expert on the subject and can give us some sound advice on overcoming the two main problems we are encountering.

MS

- Stop initiating Sex for a while.
- Do something nice together. Go to the Park/ beach / dinner / movie / hiking / Away for a weekend (not too expensive) / things she likes to do. And don't talk anything sexual. Go with the flow.

- What she is feeling is that you only want sex which she is bored of.

Build sexual intimacy rather than making it a chore. Imagine you know you have to eat the same kind of pizza every night. It gets boring. You eat something else one day then you feel like eating pizza again. You add something to the pizza you like it even more. You get what I mean.

Foreplay for a woman starts the minute her last orgasm was finished.

Don't initiate sex 5 minutes before you turn out the light. Build it up throughout the day. When you have a date, say shit to her to make her feel desired. Stuff like, "You better wear something really sexy tonight. But not anything too nice, I don't want to ruin your Sunday best when I rip what you've got on off you."

This and not initiating sex all the time should make a difference. When she DOES initiate sex, reward her by making really good for her.

Thanks !

It worked , especially the pizza part really made sense.

Thats on the first reply as the issue already resolved itself I only read the second one now.

On the second :

Yea I understand that she would be more attracted if I could come up with that stuff but I've already gone through so much toppings (back to the pizza metaphor) that the "just don't have pizza" variation was the only one I could come up with. I need some new inspiration.

I'm not sure what you're driving at. What is it that you think is the problem? That the sex is too repetitive and not enough variety? Or is it just that sex is all you do?

In a healthy relationship, you should be able to speak about your issues, and then show your committment by making changes to address the issues. If she is getting bored with sex, then change it up. Do it in a different place. Try different positions. Suggest swapping or threesomes or something. Anything that is different.

If the problem is that all you do is screw, then pick some things you like to do, and invite her to do them with you.

Yes we are doing that, the problem is resolved.

No I was just wishing I could magically reset our sexual experience/ Dont get me wrong it's exciting and I'm not worrying about notihing just on a new track here

Ask her what she wants sexually.

Lotta girls don't get off unless you're using your tongue, fingers and/or vibrator

ye, you get a new girlfriend