Hi all,

Please can someone point out what is going on.

I enjoy the chase of getting with a new girl, then when I am dating her I will focus on her and not game anyone else. (Lazy more than anything)

It will plod along for a few weeks/months, but I'll realise when it's getting that bit more serious that I dont fancy her anymore or put her in the "shes the one" category. e.g. I cant be bothered or overly keen to see herm rather have my own time.

I usually stop fancying them for a number of reasons. I don't think its a commitment phobia, it's almost I will take what I can get for the ride as something is better than nothing, but if something better comes up I will go for it.

I havent been in a relationship for around 5yrs, but at the same time I havent met my ideal girl yet. I think I get interested in others for an ego boost/self esteem or perhaps I might fancy them later.

Any thoughts?

what exactly do you want to know?

Good question.

I shouldn't care what others have got, but I want a relationship, I look at alot of people and they walk into relationships with ease.

For me, I dont know if I am extra picky or what.....

I seem to find all the negatives in someone which puts me off them.

what’s your question?

Perhaps youre spending too much time with the girl to build any tension and miss her

thats a pathological issue, most of the successful PUA's on this forum have that same pathology, for good and bad.

@Semimembranosus

Why do I always look for the negatives in someone and not just fall for them?