| Ok so its been a while since i was into a girl that much. I met a girl 6 days ago. She's beautiful we hd instant rapport and attraction nd hit it off really well that night and ended on a number close. This is a detailed diary of how things went down. I wont go into detail about that day. It was classic PUA material on push-pull qualifiers, IOIs, DHV and gaming material.
Day 2.Next day I texted her in the morning (since i didnt want to mis out on the rapport, and feel awkardand distant if i let 2-3 days go by, which i dod with girls i close but dont have the same level of rapport). We arranged to meet at night. We end up going at the beach at 2:30 AM and leaving on 6AM. At that time she was opening up like crazy telling me about her family, previous relationships, how she values honesty, never cheats and is jealous of the other guys for other girls. I started feeling as though she was a pretty nice girl and didnt want to ruin her. At one point she was giving me ll sorts of IOIs to kiss her and i kept igonoring them in order not to escalated since she was giving me the good girl vibe. At one point she even said it in words. I want to kiss you. I sort of panicked, and said i am adraid to kiss you. She said why's that? I replied you seem like a far better girl than i imagined you to be and i dont want you to get hurt. She started askign me questions about where i think this is going and shes is not in it for the short term, and i was givining all sorts of confused inconclusive answers which i kept getting busted on. I didnt want to appear more incongruent than i already have been and i decided that time for logical thinking was over, and emotional acting should come up, so i asked her to scoot on my spot. We started on seperate sunbeds, but i told her to come sit on mine. I put my hand around her neck started stroking her hair and we inevitably kissed. This kept on, and conversation was liter from that point on. We were both more relaxed started joking off about shit, and tension was off. She never asked where this is going and stuff like that. We talked about irrelevent stuff and kept making out.
Day 3 I texted hey her how are you, what are the plans for today, she said i dont know i feel kind tired i wont do anything much. I said i'm meeting my friends, maybe we could go for a short walk afterwards. She asked for details where and when and that shel confirm later. She texted later to deny. I was like sure no problem, text whenever you feel like it in a week. Later that day i thought maybe she was looking for more commitment from my part, since the previous day i was incongruend and tried to cover my incogruence with making out. So i retexted her 4 hours after our last text. Are you having fun with your party? She said yes how are you doing. And i was like we had fun, now i'm home preparing to catch some zzz's cause i got work tomorrow. I thought i should text before i went to sleep ince we didnt see each other today. She seemed like she reacted positively to that sending me a cheerful text with similies and teeling me shell text me first thing in the morning giving me good night wish and good work for the morning. (In summation nothing happened that day)
Day 4 She texted me as she said she will, but since she was hangover she didnt really say much, she was like i'm so hangover i find it hard to believe i'm talking to you right now. We'll se something up for tonight though at around 9:30. So i continue on with my program. I went to gym, and delayed our metting. We were supposed to meet at 9:30 we ended up seeing each other at 10:45 pm cause of my delayed workout. We went for a troll with my motorbike. We fond a spot with some rocks on the sea where we sat, did some lite talking then left and wen near the place of our first night. She was being resistent and i started feeling like shes was in a put off mood, which put me in a put-off mood. She was talking about stuff i wasnt finding interest in, and mid-sentencei switched on my bike and was ready to bounce, i was putting out a hand to her to greet her with a handshake. She was refusing it, started behaving sweetly, and i started on a "you're trouble bit" Why should i put worrie on my head and not start looking for a less troublygirl and shit like that. She became reactive (which is kind of the point) and then with a little nudge from my part we ended up on the sunbed once again. Making out touching each other blah blah. I started expressing why she she feels more to me than previous girls but by expressing unique ideas on why that is (like she is respectful, honest, well-raised and i felt genuine about what i was saying). She was saying how we re only just starting and theres nothing really going on between us, were just starting to get to know each other, and blah blah. She even resisted me kissing her, sayign she doesnt want to lead me on. I kept being persistant though, retrying kiss attempts. She was like, but i dont wantto kiss you, not ginving me an inch. I was like why do you think i care about what you want, i want to kis you and that is what i'll do. Eventually i brike her and opened up to kissing for the rest of the night. Went up home at 5:30 am since i had a 9:00 am wake up call.
Day 5 Was thinking a lot about her and that night.But Didnt text her. Came home from work, napped cause i was beat up, woke up, went to gym, came home at night. Found a couple of fb messages. Hi how are you? what are you doing? Took a shower then replied to her messages. She was like where have you been today? I told her playfully that she exhausted me the previous night and that i had to rest and then go to gym, and that i was relaxing at the time we were speaking. She told me she was going out with her girlfriends, and i asked her if tommorow we should go to the beach together. She said shes wasnt sure and shell tell me when she wakes up. Said our goodnights and moved on.
Day 6 She woke up, said shell go to the beach with her girlfriend and we should meet tonight instead. Said fine. Textedme on the afternoon, to tell me once again she was ditching me not even giving me a readon. "Hey icant do tonight, maybe we'll meet up tomorrow". I tried to act non-chalant and non-reactive by saying "Sure, i'll text you tommorow if i am free for something". This really messed me thought, up since i hadnt seen her the day before. I really felt like shit, my stomach started chuning. Tried desperately to do some activity in order to put my mind off of feeling like that and ended up going somewhere with a female friend of mine. After a while i recovered myself managed to go to sleep. Woke up on 4am due to excessive heat on the room. Switched off the AC, but my mind started thinking about her, and i could go to sleep till 6:30.
Day 7. This is Day 7. And i'm FUCKING UP. Please help me.
You dont have to read all the details i just provided them in case someone needs to understand the way i feel and get a grip of our dynamics.
On 4 days i will be leaving for vacations and i will be absent for a full week. This complicates stuff. Cause it really affects how i should act. Should i be more aggresive and explain to her that how the situation is to me? Should i compose myself and resume on a non-chalant, non-reactive indifferent way, hoping that if it seems like i dont care shell eventually open up, or should i start playing games with her?
Things for each situation are like.
Aggresive. She ditches me. and i'm like This is the last time you cancel on me.
Indifferent. Keep on keeping on. Saying sure and acting like i dont care when she cancels on me.
Playing games. Trying to get the upper hand. Saying i will contact her and ditch on her. Like i'm thinking of telling her to do something tonight and last minute flake on her to go with a friend. Although this is kinda spiteful and not the way to go. It will probably give me the best result but it is manipulative and if shes who she says she is, i shouldnt treat her that way.
I need some way to either shift the momentum or worst case scenarion be done cause its already early on, and i'm messed up on my head.
Oh man this is one of the longest forum posts i'written like ever. I really wanted to get some this shit out.
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