Hi guys,

I have a situation with girl i'm with...today i had a bad vibe because i havent slept for almost 30 hours ( dont ask )
long story short we went out with my cousin and some other people ( all women ), they were a bit teasy with me, which i dont usually mind but i was stressed, so i decided to move away from them as soon as we get to the bar, i met some guys i sometimes hang out with, reason was not to ruin their fun because i was in bad mood ( to be honest i shouldnt go out in the first place), so she just started to ignore me , like she would offer something to other guys around my table but skip me, or when i said im leaving she was the only one who said if i want to go i should leave, so i said by to everyone, and grabbed her by the waist and said bye, she stared me in the eyes and said ok. now my cousin posted photos of them at the same bar having fun.
now i dont know how to handle myself, should i ignore it, say something, should i text her first or wait for her to to that. besides my friend has a party tomorrow, and i plan on going without her ( she doesnt know about it anyways )


Appreciate your toughts and eventual help.

Kind regards

Sounds like you had a bad day, it happens. Tell her just what you posted here, you felt run down and probably shouldn't have gone, but you'll glad she had a good time. No big deal, ask her to the party and be your usual fun self. GL

Thanks for answer,

but what about her actions, you know her ignoring me like i described...
that iritates me, should i bring it.

This not good advice...he failed to address the problem- her behaviour towards you.

Solution: Next her!!

This means ignore her for as long as possible...don't text, facebook or call her. Wait until she contacts you.
Whenever a girl shows you a modicum of disrespect, make her pay by REMOVING your attention from her as this is ultimately what validates her and makes her feel like "she's the shit" (attractive to men). Once you give her the wakeup call that you don't put up with her bullshit or put her on a pedestal her attraction for you will skyrocket.

She texted:
"Where are you?I'm at Helena ( her aunt, which i know very good )my grandpa ( hes sick, not serious ) is here i cant go to town so. N


she texted me i havent texted back. what i think she wants is for me to call her, to take a walk or something, but dont know what should i do...i was planning to go to prty without her, is it too much? should i reply, and in what way should i do it?

thanks

I thinkk she wants me to go to her

Make an excuse for being busy...and don't text her back for another whole week

This is my advice...might be harsh but trust me it will have her eating out of the palm of your hand

Next her for a whole week!

I disagree with this. The problem with this is the timing; like in bad training with animals, she won't know what she is being punished for. It is likely to backfire. Just tell her what you wrote here, you had a shitty day but you're happy she had fun. It sends the message that you are confident with her partying on her own. About the other party; you can mention it in passing and not ask her, or perhaps ask if she's willing to join your harem for the party (it sends an invite, but also the assumption that if she's not coming you'll have other chicks to entertain you).

Yeah? I guess everyone has their own definition of game.... However, allow me to shed some light on the reality of the situation: one who understands women can glean from this that she was losing attraction AND respect for him. A girl who is genuinely attracted or interested in a guy will not ignore him period. Either that or she was ignoring him out of insecurity of being with him (perceiving him as lower value than the others around her).

I agree with you, except on the part when you said girls don't ignore a guy they are interested in. Girls are complicated creatures...ever heard of the silence SPAM™? One example. You gave another. There is also "friendly advice" to take into account, she might have been told by a friend to act that way in order to make him do this or that. Or maybe she thought she was punishing him for something.

You are probably right that she sees him as being of low value right now. And the respect and attraction... I do not believe all to be lost yet though. And I don't think he needs to be jerk to accomplish it.

I appreciate all ouf you guys,

I still havent responded , in meanwhile she sent me facebook msg: "are we not good anymore:)"


i went to the party without her , and had a great time

I agree with Dfire. Girls can be pissed, give the silent SPAM and it doesn't mean they're not interested.

Alot of info is missing. Are you in a relationship and if so how long. Also how old are you?
Going to the party and not inviting her was immature and I hope you're under 17 if that's how you responded. You went out with "your girl", you were in a bad mood and ignored her and she acted passive agressive. It happens. Both of you handled it incorrectly and a talk after to clear things up would have been fine. Telling her you were in a funk but you expect her to not be rude. She's a girl and sometimes they do stupid emotional things.

I never considered that angle and you are right: women do play silent SPAM games (push tactics) and it is usually an attempt to manipulate beta men. However, a real man will not be affected by their games, because he is not needy i.e if she tries to manipulate with pushing, pushing her back i.e nexting her will likely make her want to pull again. The trick is to recognise when they are pushing as attempts at manipulation and when they are genuinely not attracted to you. However, nexting seems to be the most effective in any case.

Interesting points in few last post, which i really appreciate ( push pull and silence SPAM).just to add that i decided to send fcb msg since she already sent 1 text 1 fcb msg. In her last message she asked have i recived her text, and why im not responding whole day, and also asked are we ok. So after 1 day of nexting i wrote this morning that i havent responded because i was out and went over phone limit ( which is true, so i couldnt text even if i wanted to, which i didn't ) and wrote that we can see each other after 1 pm, cause i had some stuff to do. still no response 12 hours later.

tomorrow there is a party, both of us are gonna attend, how should I act?
and i really was frustrated the way she handle herself that night, should i confront her anyways or?

thanks for all

This may be anti-relationship advice, but if it were me, I personally wouldn't even respond until she does. Heck, i wouldn't show her any affection or even pursue her. I'd just fuck her and make some excuse to leave, like martial arts training or mountain climbing at 2AM. Seriously, this girl is just another typical game-playing, non girlfriend material type. Fuck her, dump her and move on. My honest two cents. So when a woman shows lack of interest in YOU- fuck her, dump her and move on and don't give a shit if she doesn't contact you again. Your true purpose by nature as a man is to spread your seed to as many women as possible, not to be attached to any. BE THAT MAN! FULFIL THAT PURPOSE!