Salut my friends! I need you guys. I am going nuts.

Here is my situation...

I been in a relationship with this russian chick that also is muslim. We have 7 months together and still counting. She been with me in good and bad times. She is a spoiled girl, her family is rich and she has a job just because she does not want to stay at her apartment doing nothing. We both going to college and have Jobs. The first day of school I saw her and I thought she was pretty hot so after class I asked the professor for her name, then was game time...but before I left the classroom the professor told me "Be careful man, she is muslim. Not again". In 2011 fall semester I went out with a muslim girl, she was persian, and I met her in a class with the same teacher.

I started going out with my girlfriend after 3 weeks that I had built the attraction, pure game. After that I wanted to know her better. My girlfriend was married at the age of 17 to this rich guy from Afghanistan. They had 9 years married which she only lived with him 7. The other 2 years she was living alone. She was trying to get divorced but she never was strong enough to do it. But a guy came and gave her the strength to do it (ME). She said that once I entered in her life she realized that she needed to get divorced. I know that her ex-husband had a bunch of women and that was the reason why she wanted to leave him. Once she told him that she wanted the divorce, he went crazy. He called her family and told them that she was being a whore. She called her family and explained that was not true.

The guy had put a tracking device in her car, which took him to my apartment. I guess the guy found out that she was dating me. The guy went a find her to ask her about my religion, she straight forward told him that I was a non-muslim and she wanted to build a life with me. The guy went nuts and called her family to tell them. The same night she went to my job and told me that she needed to take a plane ASAP back to her country, the reason why was because if a muslim girl is married and she have sex with a non-muslim guy her father needs to kill her and if the father refuses, her oldest brother has to do it. She wanted to go back and explain to her family her situation. She explained to me how she lost a couple of friends like that. They come to the US they marry a non-muslim guy, the go back to visit and they kill them. I was terrified, I felt guilty. In the lapse of a week she contacted me back stating that she was coming back that everything was fine.

Finally she came back to the US and she told me that everything was fine....all this happened within the first 2 months of our relationship. We went normal for about 3 months after that...

She told me that she needed to go back to spend some time with her family since we were in summer break. She left by the end of June. She admitted that they supported her in her decision of divorcing him. Her family did not know that she was dating a non-muslim guy. I was not going to pressure her to tell them. She left and our relationship was really healthy.

Now check this...

One day my girlfriend called me and told me that we could not be together. I asked why, and she said that because her ex-husband told her that he would pay somebody to actually hurt me if she came back and build a life with me. I did not know what to say. She said that she was going nuts because she did not know what to do. I told her that I could talk to him, but she told me that he would not talk to me. He told her that under the law of GOD he was her husband until he said otherwise, she was afraid of him. Also she was telling me that her family was trying to marry her to another guy...SMH

She said that she was not a good match for me and I needed to leave her alone. I was upset. But I had to let her be. Days later I contacted her and asked that what was going on? was she coming back or what? she told me that she did not know and that she was not answering any relationship questions because she was under pressure, her family, her ex husband and now me. I figured she needed some time alone. I did not text heror contact her for 2 days. In those two days I was really depress. After 2 days...

this happened:

By this time I only text her or contact her to say "hey, I was calling to see if you were ok" and my girlfried replied with a " I am ok, have a nice day"...SMH

One night before I left work, the females of the company were going out as a group and asked me if I wanted to go. I really did not want to go but was better than staying home waiting for her to reply back or call me. I went out with the girls. They were 6 females I was the only guy. I knew that 2 were attracted to me and the others found me just handsome. In the group was this redhead woman(HB8),really curvy, she is 36 married SMH.

I tried to loose a Little and dance. I danced with all the women in the group, expect for her. She got hit on the whole night, and everybody at work wants to fuck her. Once again she is married. Finally we were really to leave the club. We went to one of the girl´s apartment. By the time we got to her apartment I was the only guy with 3 women, 1 was attracted to me but it is too conservative to make a move knowing that I had a girlfriend, the other one was extremely drunk and the redhead woman was cool. Eventually the redhead woman and I stayed alone in the living room...We fucked all night SMH

I am a believer of no cheating...I just do not know what happened to me that night. After that the redhead and I talked. She told me that she wanted me for months but she was not trying to do anything because I was so Young. We started talking more and spending time together, even though she was married. SMH

We used to fuck every night for the last 2 weeks of july and my girlfriend acting all unstable. Then the redhead explained to me that she really like the way I keep things interesting and listen to her. I was really curious to know why she cheated, and she explained that she was not satisfied at her house. Her husband was not interested in sex anymore, which I thought that was odd. We had really great chemistry until her husband found her journal...SMH

She had in her journal every single experience that she had experienced with me. The guy asked her for the divorced...SMH...After a couple of days she told me that he wanted to work it out with her and that they were going to go to therapy. She also said that she needed to stop talking to me for that to happen. I agreed.

The night that she was explaining that to me she also was explaining me some other things. She explained that I should let my girlfriend go, since she was married so early in her life she has not experienced much and she did not know what a healthy relationship was. She did not know to decide between her family, religion or me.
She said that she would pick her family over me. Also her family is trying to marry her to another guy. She told me that I have to stop trying to talk to girls with an "edge"...She explained that I should follow my dreams instead of waiting for unstable woman.

I am going to tryout to be a profesional futbol player. I was training hard for it, but I am really depress. My girlfriend called me 3 days ago and told me that she missed me and she wanted to meet in Turkey. Not sure if I should go or not...or just stay for the tryout.

Now...
I feel really guilty for what I did...
I just met a woman that I wanted to meet a long time ago and I cannot proceed.
I have a futbol (Soccer) tryout and my mind is not nearby being focus.
Should I listen to the readhead woman?
Is my girlfriend ready for me?
Should I even bother to wait for her?
Should I just let her go?
I am attracted to women with an "edge" I cannot help it.
Why are girls so unstable???
Does she want me but she knows her family would not date me? Should I make everything easy for her and let her go?
My girlfriend want security...She is always saying; Youre so Young, youre going to leave me. She is so insecure, and I think i am going to get tired of that, but in the otherhand she almost got killed because of me. Should I stay with her. I just do not want to take the wrong decisión and regret it.


Guys, thank you for all your help. I need other points of views about this. My instict tells me to stay with her, since she had worked a lot for it.

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That's one of the most fucked up situations I've ever come across here on the forum boards. Definitely in the top 3. It's hard to say anything.

Regarding what's good for you, that red head nailed it big time.

Regarding what's good for your girlfriend, it's just a trap. You can not win. Either the both of you gets stalked for the rest of your lives by crazy people like that husband or she will have to marry someone whom she doesn't love. It's a shame but it's the truth. The only option would be to get the fuck away from everyone. Her family and her husband too, but I don't think she would agree to leave her family for a 7 months old relationship. Noone in their right mind would do that.

If you want my advice I will tell you again that the red head is correct. I know it's not what you want to hear, but this can not be helped. You should search for other women. It's not so bad if they "have an edge", but this is fucked up on so many levels that it's outright impossible to get any good out of this.

But hence my name... You said your Instincts told you you should stay with her. I always follow my instincts. They pretty much know some shit, thousands of years of evolution was not in vain after all. What you should know that this girl will need plenty of time before she can make any kind of decision. This will be a torture for both of you if you decide like that and quite a long one. Whether it's worth it or not, only the future can show that.

Stay strong, my friend.

Peace,

In$tinct.

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The most important person in your life is you. It is very sad, but I do not see this relationship working. Let me list the reasons why:
- You cheated on your girlfriend and you feel guilty about it. You may want to tell her sometime, or she may find out in a different way, and you do not know how she will react. She may break up with you over it.
- Your girlfriend's family forces her to choose between their approval and you. Although it is extremely unfair for her family to put her in this position, the wisest course of action is usually to choose the family. Besides the fact that she has known them longer, she cannot be expected to give them up for the rest of her life. That means, again, that there is a good chance she will break up with you when pressed.
- Your girlfriend's ex-husband is obviously crazy and possibly dangerous. Like I said, you are the most important person in your life. If you forget about the threats to your girlfriend for a moment and think really selfishly: is this relationship really worth the threat of violence hanging over your head?

You think you will regret it if you do not make the right decision. Well, people make mistakes and they feel regret, it is part of life. But I will tell you that people regret a lot more the things they didn't do than the things they did do. If you give up your football tryout for this girl, you may always be wondering if that could have been your big break. In the end, your decision cannot be 'wrong' if it is what you want. Of course it may not have been the best decision in hindsight, but you can always look back on it with the knowledge that you tried to make the best decision that you could.

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

It's a shit test.

Kidding, the above 2 posters are right.
That's some drama....