This happens to me in every relationship.

Nothing makes me as happy as going on a date with her. Seems like being on a date or spending time with her is the only thing that can make me happy. If I go for a walk, play basketball, get good grades or make some money it barely makes me happy.


I feel really sad when she does not want to meet.
Its even worse when she does not respond to my text messages. For example earlier today I asked if we could meet tomorrow and she just ignored that text message. I get depressed, lay in bed all day and do not even eat anything.

Please help. This is a disease I want to fight.

This is why they don't want to meet with you (like you said in your other post). They probably like you, but after spending time with you, you scare them away with your neediness. Then maybe they miss you after not speaking to you, but when they see you again you scare them off again.

You have to find a way to be happy without a girl otherwise you're going to ruin your life.

Yes you are right. It is already ruining my life.

We value what is least available to us. I've never had a girlfriend who truly loved me. All of them kept me as a secret. I get to see them only briefly. One woman (HB10 blonde hair blue eyes) would not see me more than 90 minutes at a time. Rarely have I been introduced to any woman's friends or family. That's why I value women so much. I think being in a relationship is ultimate fun (especially since its so hard for me). I feel a woman truly loving me is an ultimate challenge if not impossible. I don't think I express this to any of the women.

Welcome to courtship where everything is backward.

Hey just a couple questions. How old are you? And these girlfriends, you've had sex with them yes?

I used to get a little bit like this, though not to your extent.

The reason was that I had nothing else going on in my life that made me happy. I worked a shitty job all week and spent my weekends drinking heavily to the point of being sick or blacking out. So women were literally the only thing making me happy whatsoever, and I tried to get all my emotional nourishment from them, and it just pushed them away.

You need to find happiness elsewhere, take some time away from the pursuit of women, exercise, get some hobbies, read books, go for walks, eat healthier, learn to cook, see friends, reconnect with family, try and better yourself.

I got myself fit, I quit drinking, I moved out. I am still at the same company in the same shitty line of work, but I got myself promoted and while I don't wish to be here forever, it's better than it was.

Bro, c'mon. What type of girl do you think would want to be a part of your life when all she is doing is filling some void of happiness? Girls want to be with a guy who is already happy. Meaning not so damn needy...