Ok well shit here it goes..grabs some popcorn
I'm new to this whole PUA thing..Beware you are about to some very AFCish behavhior

I'm 16..she's 16 met on a dating site..yep first time I used one. She lives about 10 minutes away from me goes to a school in the same county as me..she's a HB8 and she has a lot of guys hitting on her. We met back in February after valentine's day and I got her number we hit it off pretty much..flirted everyday..eventually a couple of weeks later she told me she cried over me one night and developed feelings for me..and I was like I have feelings for you too.


We practically acted like couples for about a couple of weeks..we SPAM..talked on the phone texted ALL DAY..I know smh..and then we made plans to meet each other up at the mall..I knew at the time to get a date with a girl I had to state when and where we were going to meet instead of asking her. She ended up agreeing to meet up but then Easter came the day before we were supposed to meet up..and she started ignoring me so I was like great a flake..and then I texted her asking why she was ignoring me..and she said, she went to church and saw a guy there she had a crush on since she was a little girl..keep in mind this guy is 22 in college and lives no where near us..we live in ATL..he lives in Savannah..he doesn't even know she has feelings for him..he basically thinks they're family because her family and his family used to always hang out..so I knew nothing was going to happen and wasn't worried..and I continued to text everyday..she stopped flirting with me for a couple of days then started reinitiating the flirting and I was all happy..and stuff..and then later on in April she confessed and told me that she started to fall in love with me AGAIN and I of course at the time didn't know what afc/alpha/beta behavior was..so I basically said I love her too..and we kept it going for a 3 weeks..after a couple weeks it just faded and we just kept flirting on and off..

Fast Forward to this month..she went on a camp with her church and met a guy at a camp that she had developed feelings for and they exchanged numbers...and she started acting distant so I asked her if there's someone else..and she said yeah..she met someone at camp and she also said that "well you were barely talking to me before I went to that camp and I had an open mind when I was there and I didn't mean to like him"..keep in mind we still haven't met up with each other..she flaked that last few times I asked her out..so I sent her this stupid fucking text that I was told to send..and it goes like this..

Me: "I can't just be a second option..you say you have feelings..but the reason I wasn't talking to you as much is because you moved on and I didn't wanna seem clingy..lol I want something between us more than friendship..but I can't wait forever because of some guy at camp, I have feelings too and I'd rather not get hurt."

HB8: "Ok well.."

Me: "well.."

HB8: "idk I need to think"

I haven't responded yet...should I respond or what?

I just need her to agree to go out with me once..and I'm sure I could steal her from that dude..they're not going out I'm not sure if the guy know she likes her..but they do text everyday..idk what to do..I'm new to this whole thing..OH and by the way..the guy she met at camp lives an hour away from us..so it might not work out..who knows..but I need your guys' help..I know acted like a complete FUCKING AFC this whole time..and I chased her...I want her to chase me..we haven't even met yet and the other guy has an advantage over me because they met..she even told me he gave her his hat and shirt before camp was over..she still occasionally flirts with me a little but not as much..idk what to do..
I do occasionally double text her but..I stopped..

Oh and ..she's a dedicated Virgin till marriage..a christian so..

Ok good things first
-your only 16!
-you are on your way to learning about women
-you seem out going which will help you meet more women
-you already got one girls number the next one's will be that much easier to get
The not so good
-she broke it off with you for some other guy she wasn't even dating and you kept texting
-she flaked on numerous occasions and you kept texting
-she again broke it off for another guy and you kept texting
-you basically said you wouldn't wait forever so she knows she can have you down the line

Stop texting her and move on...Your Only 16 you will have plenty of other girls. Take this as a learning experience, I wish I had learned such lessons at 16!

you are still young as hell. 16 is good timing to start dating around. Just move on and let her do her thing. Young girls and guys are stupid ass hell and don't know what they want. Expect a lot of mood fluctuations on your part and on the part of teenage girls. It's the hormones. Develop your skills as a player and go out there and date.

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~ASmooth

I'm trying my best to move on..but it's so hard..she still flirts with me..and stuff..but..it's just that knowing I can't do anything because..that guy she met has an advantage, only because the've met, I know I can steal her if I can get her to agree to go out once..

You're already done. You were too clingy. You hit that "ew" switch. Move onto the next one.

You're young.

Charge it to experience.

Another thing, when girls sense that YOU are the clingy type, they wouldn't stick around.

That's a big turn-off.

She dumped you, take it and move on.

Next girl, please.

I have learned a lot..ever since I started gaming..I'm thinking about going total no contact for 3 weeks and give it one last shot..and while I'm doing no contact I'll go out to the mall and game other girls so it's easier for me to move on...what do you guys think?

Good go pick up girls in the mall!

Well i would not contact her. Let her come back to you, but keep it casual, no chasing anymore. Either she puts some weight into knowing you/meeting or she can forget you. But even if you seem to date her, this girl does not sound as relationship material to me.

Thanks a lot bro , I've since number-closed a few girls from the mall and I've been talking to them lately..and I've pretty much completely forgotten about this chick...haha funny thing is now that I don't really seem to care about her she blow's up my phone like crazy..now she's the one chasing..I think it's funny..oh well time to move on and keep ignoring unless otherwise.

Great that is how it should be! Keep having fun with other girls, you will learn alot.
Its not a problem talking to that girl now though, just keep her chasin YOU. Reward her good texting behavior and punish the bad. Just don't get emotionally attached to her like you got before.

Goodluck!