Hey guys its been a while since i've been on here.

So here is my back story came back from japan and went to see a show met my current girlfriend there for the first time. a couple months later me and my friends go to another show we pick her up and go to the show together next thing i know we are dating.

Her back story she was engaged for a year and changed and had recently found out that he was cheating on her with their roommate. The second time we went to the show when we pick her up was not long after the break up.

Now I know what your thinking i was a rebound for her. Well we made it official to each other that we were now dating and it has been two months since then now my past is rearing its ugly head and now I'm getting this gut feeling every so often when she goes to a friends house (male friend) now i've had this feeling twice before and the second time i told her about it and she was bassically pissed off that I accused her of cheating.

Now another things is that when she goes there she ends up smoking weed and then in the morning not remember the previous nights events which leads me to believe that she could have done things and not remember the next morning. Now im basically in a corner here because she had not replied for two hours and then says that her phone tweeked out and and then says that she is at a friends house on a smoke session and that she would talk to me later and the when i tell her i would have been nice to know and that i would talk to her later then she says that she is sorry because she is in a dead zone and then gets pissed off about me not replying to her. the i replied with i thought that she wanted to talk later and left her alone.


now these smoke sessions are hours long starting from 4 to 5 pm in the afternoon all the way to midnight. To me thats plenty of time for them to do whatever they want. and with me living an hour and a half away and not knowing where the guy lives i cant go and show up unexpectedly and catch them unawares. Now i'm sure its just me and all but i cant help think that something else is going on especially since she admits that she gets frisky when she's high. and I have seen her when shes drunk but that was when were not dating yet and I havent seen how she acts around other people when shes high and not being watched.

so my question to you all is what do I do and or how do I deal with it.

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Well I'll be the prick that tells you straight up. This is classic M.O here. She is a lion and a cheeta! The part about the cell being on the fritz is telltale sign too. What to do about it?

1. Nothing until he talks her into dumping you for him or she tires of him
or
2. confront her and she becomes insulted you "accused her of cheating" and dumps you for him
or
3. Dump her and he gets her even easier

Anyone have a 4th option? You should do us a favor in the name of science. Break all contact completely. Don't even bother breaking up with her. She is the one messing around. See what happens. Has anyone ever tried this?

Change your number. Don't ever talk to her again. Let her wonder the rest of her life what the fuck happened to that cold ass honkey, thedwiggit.

She's disappearing to hang out with a dude and telling you she's using substances to inhibit her judgment.

She's smoking something, all right...

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*Smacks head* COME ON MAN, she's probably gotten boned by every guy at these "smoke sessions" by now.

Some fucked up shit here. Short of her sucking off other dudes in front of you, it really doesn't get any more obvious. This is no gut feeling... This is a flag gallery. I don't get how guys let themselves in to being ok with these situations... It never just happens.. the girl tests your boundaries and slowly sees how far she can take them... People call it controlling, but this is why I set my boundaries early and strict. If you let them stretch them, they will go all the way in to the horizon. As it is, this girl is out at the horizon... Pretty much nothing you can do aside from not give a fuck and go sleep with some other girls. I just don't know how you let it get to this.

Something isn't right. She smokes to the point of not recalling things? That in itself is fucked up. Find a girl w/o a drug problem homie.

Yeah, I'd give her the option of giving up the drugs forever, or dump her on the street. I would never date a drug addict. Probably a worse idea than dating a prostitute.

I've been thinking about it ever since i posted this a little while back. She smokes weed and nothing else.

So when i confronted her about how I feel about it she got pissed off and i replied with you told me to be more honest with you and when I did you get pissed off WTF. Also threatened to leave her and that put her back in her place. Its like she is afraid of losing me.

She also say this every now and then that if we ever broke up that it would be the end for her and she would go back to cutting herself and shit. Now I just posted a new topic recently with a slight update to the situation.

She also reiterates that the she doesn't like a controlling guy so maybe it is time to set the boundaries that should put in the first place.

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what is that u want

How the fuck do you jump from her smoking weed with a male friend to the two of them sleeping together. Short of her sucking off other dudes in front of you ... WTF do you mean by that? Just because you guys would try and get your end away with someone else doesn't mean all women think like you. Paranoid load of nutters.

You are a lemming, bro. If in the unlikely case you have a girlfriend, she's probably cheating on you too. You obviously don't understand men, or women enough to realize what happens in situations OP is describing. This girl is going to some dude's house, late at night, and getting stoned off her ass with him, and then saying SHE DOESN'T REMEMBER WHAT SHE DID the next day. How fucking clueless can you be?

Let me finish that sentence. She doesn't remember what she did but her pussy sure is sore. Lol

Well This is what i Have managed to come down to im getting a software that can access her phone remotely and she what it is exactly that she is Hiding from me.

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