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I really don't need to go into details so i'll try and make it short
Met a girl about 4 months ago, and have fallen in love. Don't question it, i know how i feel.
I kind of blew it because we were dating and not official, and i kept asking her how she was feeling about me etc. In other words i was needy and insecure. I'm not usually like that, but the fact i felt so strongly for her scared me a bit, i normally date women but not get too emotionally involved. So when i did with this one, i didnt know how to handle it.
Anyway she broke it off, i went a little nuts and text her some seriously long texts, trying different methods to get a response. She has since explained why she doesnt want to carry on and said to just leave her alone.
I'm now a bit lost. I've accepted it but i hate it, and i know it could work if i sorted some issues out and if she listened to me a bit more and made some changes herself. Problem is she is quite arrogant and doesnt listen to reason a lot of the time. She admitted she has quite a black and white mind, almost robotic at times, and her opinion of me changed almost daily based on how well we were getting on.
So should i just move on and forget about her? I do genuinely feel we could work, when we get on well its incredible. Our sex life was also second to none. I did things i've never wanted to do with anyone else nor do i ever want to, it was pretty special...
Is it best to just casually date for a few weeks/months then re initiate contact? Or let it be for good and just stay single again?
Mainly looking for womens perspectives here, if you were her, im assuming the messages would just push you away further, so what would make you warm to me again?
When your girlfriend dumps you, it's shitty, it can really hurt. I know it's not exactly "manly" to let it be known that we feel pain like anyone else, but that doesn't change the fact that we do.
But don't go chasing after her begging her to come back to you. texting, calling, It's not very manly, and it's not going to get you anywhere anyways.
Give her some space, some time to heal and get herself back in order. And
miss you.
Freeze her out Bro, use this time to work on yourself.
DATE OTHER WOMEN!
Work your issues out and solve your biggest problems. When you're either done with that, you can possibly re-initiate contact with her.
The important thing is, you cannot do this NOW! It's been made clear that she needs space.
As shitty as it is, there may even be another dude lurking around. You must except it, and move on for now.
Once you've established contact again, slowly build back up with a few contacts here and there, light and friendly without getting all needy!
Eventually you two will probably start hanging out together, do not make that a priority, YOU are the priority!
Do NOT stop SEEING OTHER WOMEN! Because the worst thing that could happen is you will find something better than you lost.
CHAT