I am contemplating telling a girl that I am a pua, since it is one of my hobbies. I go to a small school and my girlfriend used to hang out with a certain social circle her Freshman year. However, they had a falling out at the end because of something. She stopped hanging out with them and avoiding them. There is some baggage...I have never asked about it until now.

My school is small. I don't know if I would rather hear about her past from her or from another person. I tried asking her about the falling out recently and she avoided the subject and played stupid. I am not sure if this is a deal breaker for me. If I were to tell her I am a pua, I would feel relief because I plan to game girls socially this fall semester and hope to avoid unnecessary drama. How honest is being too honest here?


I have been getting bored with my girlfriend and want to drill the oil well some more. Go in deeper. Should I back off? Ask someone else? I am curious now. I have been fuck buddies with her 3 months and dating her for 3 months. I don't feel like it is too early. Any help will be appreciated

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You can't be a PUA that was the most amateur move. You said its a small school now she can blow up your spot and let everyone know what a scumbag you are. Plus she can never look at you the same. Thats like SPAM telling the world hes Bruce Wayne...

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I haven't told her. Besides, SPAM is a bad example. He always tells the girls he is in love with he is SPAM...lol

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So you don't care about her right before the point of wanting to know her sexual past?

I care about her. I am considering long term here. I feel like there is one barrier between us. I am used to knowing details about a girl. In my defense, I don't really judge a girl. I have had a girl tell me she has been with 20 guys. Another girl told me she has been in orgies. These girls were not my girlfriends but my friends with benefits or fuckbuddies. I didn't hold those details against them and pretty much got along with them fine, even after they told me shit like that.

I haven't done that with this girl. I don't know her past so it feels weird. I am used to knowing things. I guess one of my qualities that I look for in a girl is honesty. So I am having trouble accepting the way she played it off and played stupid when I asked. Not sure...

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This is kinda childish. If you want to know about your gf's past, that's your business and she should be honest with you about it.

Don't mention PUA. If you're bored already, this is not going to last long with this girl. When you break up you're shit will be out there.

Yea exactly you don;t want that out there.

Also you say your used to knowing the details and thats what means alot to you. It mean so much your willing to tell her your a PUA. Then you say you don;t hold it against them...I get the vibe this is BS. You need to know this info because you need to know how much or little to respect them. Truth is you personally can never date or love someone you know was banged out by 20 other guys. Just admit it.

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Listen, I really have not judged these girls at all after that. I'm not kidding...because I have been friends with them and still am. I am curious to see what happened. I am curious to see if there were poor decisions made, etc. I like her personality, I am willing to look past her history.

For example, today we were at a festival and there was a guy there that posted on her Facebook wall a month ago. They had an exchange of banter on FB. At the festival, every time she saw him, both their body languages would shift. She doesn't know that I know they know each other. It bothered me that they didn't at lead say Ho to one another. She kinda shyed. I would be completely fine if they use to date or if she "saw" him. The guy was with his girlfriend too. He was even eyeing me down at one point. Maybe I am putting a lot of thought into this but that's what happened. She would tell me to walk another way if she saw the guy. Even if people use o fuck, can't they say hi?


On the bright side, maybe she told him that she was in a relationship and cut off the fuck buddy status. Maybe that's it. I don't know. But that's besides the point. Just need to know if she did something tha I would consider a red flag regarding the social circle.

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Should I ask?

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you say shes been getting boring. but you want to know the past. I don't think you really want to know what happened with the social circle. but that you are more concerned with who this guy is especially if she is telling you to walk away whenever that guy is around

I just asked. I found out a few things an I can honestly say I am feeling better. Not sure about the guy but I can't do anything more than take her word for it. Apparently they haven't hung out. Don't know if that is a lie since I seen them banter before on Facebook and she knows his friends. I used the advice in this post to deal with that, though. The rest is up to her.

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I feel closer to her now. I don't feel as distant with her and have rekindled the passion. I am at a good place at the moment. We seem to be more synchronized. Probably not going to tell her about pua ever. May seem a little out there. We will discuss other areas of my life.

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