The situation is as follows....Girl started texting me out of the blue and chased after me for a few weeks...we finally got together and things have been going really well...closed her and continue to do so(sex has been great for me, but I have not been lasting as long as normal bc she is sexy as fuck) we have been seeing each other a few weeks.

The problem is she just out of a relationship with another dude when she started to text and show interest in me and I mean directly out of the relationship, I don't think even a week passed when she started contacting me. Now the other dude is back in the picture. The way this happened was that after her graduation party she went to a bar with her friends, I couldn't go to the bar as I had to be up super early so I told her to go have fun. So apparently her ex is there and from what my friends tell me they talk and he kino's her most of the night. Now I come to find out she has been back in touch with him texting with him for sure...but possibly more.

I played it pretty cool when I found out as we are not in an exclusive relationship and have never talked about being in one. When we talked about it I just simply said I didn't particularly care that she was talking to him because I assume they broke up for good reasons and I didn't think I had much to worry about. Not having much to worry about is a lie bc dude is an alpha and clearly has game, way younger than me which is her age and is clearly more social from what little I know about him.

I was planning on asking this girl to go on a trip with me and now I'm not so sure. It could be a good thing to get her away from the other dude and show her what a fun, laid back guy I am or she could shoot me down and everything crumbles after that. Advice please PS Pretty sure from what she said he broke up with her.

Well then, if you havent had this discussion with her and you two are not in an exclusive relationship. Then she is pretty much free to see and talk to whoever she wants. Dont ever assume anything.

Your a rebound man. I wouldn't spend the money to take this girl on a trip. Not until I was sure she isn't using you as a pawn.

Find other girls! This 1 seems unstable and not ready to really settle down. Thats fine if thats what you want as well... then both see other people and keep her on the side. But it sounds like u like her and have feelings for her...and she my not be feeling the same way. Talk to her about how she feels? what shes looking for? what her goals are? ect... so you know what she wants and then u can give/take according.

GL
Duke

Hey dude


This is one of this situations where the term "Charge it to the game" comes into play. She'll continue to have sex with you as long as you don't take her serious. Her and this ex aren't going to work out for obvious reasons. Yes she probably used you to build herself back up a bit emotionally but that doesn't mean you can't still bang her. She's not worth all this effort, be a man and take the emotions out the picture. Honestly, you shouldn't even be posting anything or asking questions about her because she's done nothing. Forget the whole trip idea, take it for what it is. Bang her, while you continue to be on the prowl searching for someone more fitting for your life; she is definitely not it.

Joey

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if you bang her good, i repeat IF YOU BANG HER GOOD!!!!!!!! then my experiences tell me that she will probably start to grow feelings for you anyway

You have got to give her the banging of her life though

Alright so you guys are saying to keep banging...which I am without a doubt going to do, but why say she is is not LTR material? I get that her talking with her ex is bad news but does it automatically mean she will not sooner or later put distance between her and him? She is really into me and constantly asks my plans, texts first etc. yesterday was the first day of any thing even remotely close to a serious talk and I feel like I played it pretty good...I'm thinking we just need to sit down like duke said and figure out what we both want out of this.....thoughts?

I should also add though before we got together on her twitter she was saying she missed some other dude and would come to visit him soon, def. not as friends....that was a week before we started hooking up? I'm sure she has dropped contact with him but Maybe she is just looking for attention now that I think about it?

Like myself and the other have said she seems to be unstable and not looking for a LTR at the present moment. Now that doesnt mean it cant turn into one... but by her ACTIONS she just seems a bit lost and looking for guys (plural) who will meet her needs. If that does not bother you that she is doing this then do what you want with her... treat her like your GF if you want... but understand she might not be receptive at this time. If you can live with that then your all good... but if your gonna get jealous of her texting and hitting up other dudes and banging them (potentially not a guarantee she does this) then id just take this more carefree and not put a lot of effort into it. Either way its in your control.

GL
Duke

I think this is quite simple situation yet difficult.
The fact is you don't like her being with the ex. Which is understandable and not beta. You want an exclusive relationship. So you tell her these two things in an adult manner.
From that point the ball is in her court. If she doesn't cut contact with the ex, she doesn't respect you therefore she's not relationship material.
To the guys saying "fuck her good". Lol you guys overrate sex too much. Sex is good, but it won't make a girl stick with you.
Just for the record how old is she. Let's hope I'm wrong with assuming she's quite young in which case probably this won't work.

you are right, sex wont make her stick with you but if you give her good sex it makes things much easier

Listen to your gut.

Mine tells me there's something wrong with her communicating with him especially when things ended so shortly before meeting you.